That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I double down on this... My last relationship ended, due to her addiction to social media.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Actually yeah she did. Recall I mentioned not long ago about her friend that acted like a complete jack off at her birthday. So I said basically look I don’t know how you could continue to let her speak and act like that - so then she has her brother lie a couple days ago about their being in contact and I mentioned that again this evening, like wtf you dragged another party let alone your brother to lie for you and he’s a terrible liar and I saw it?
She’s pretty. A lot of guys here would have been more than happy about it.
You are so right about this. My wife cheated on me with someone who she met via Instagram. I also once worked inside the belly of the beast @Facebook — all these products are so narcissistic and toxic. Nothing good is coming to humanity from these tools except hell upon people’s psyches and relationships. A good woman will shut down outside contact and not worry about nourishing an external image for her “fanbase”. Truly, *man or woman*, this is low class and will damage your closest intimate partnerships. Everything here is accurate, and a sad sorry state of affairs.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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I’m in love with @catsmeow2Genesis "In Too Deep" posted earlier which you gave a
Listen, you know I love you, but I just can't take this
You know I love you, but I'm playing for keeps
Although I need you, I'm not gonna make this
You know I want to, but I'm in too deep
The 64,000 question:
Are you in love with her?
My response to all this depends on your answer.
She offered to block that college buddy and delete her social media weeks ago. Also, those are some solid thoughts.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
That’s a big deal IMHO if she actually sticks to that commitment. I’d make sure to hold her accountable on that and check in on it regularly. I’m not going to lie that in my next relationship I’m going to request an open phone policy. Look at my phone any time you want. That means I can see yours. No secret worlds hidden in layers…some might say this is controlling, but in this day and age I’m not so sure anymore.
Ultimatums suck. But another test you can do is tell her it's either Instagram or the relationship. Can't have both. We all know what her answer will be.
Well if for real you're in love with another woman, you should definitely break up with her.
CM2 was basically my Cleopatra; my Juliet
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
No woman is pretty enough for me to spend 2.5K a month on.
That’s exactly what I said. I said I'm not going to tell you what to do.
$100 to post her nudes. I know one of you jokers got them.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.