"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Hurricane Lesson

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I live in the Central Florida area. Thanks to hurricane Charley (a$$hole) and Frances (b$tch), I've learned that being cool, calm and collected will benefit you in ALL areas of life. I've personally seen how wasteful it is to let your emotions control you. Being nervous, anxious, scared are all natural reactions, but they are 'useless'. Keep these emotions under control when trying to talk to women and I promise you'll do much better.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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wow... i totally disagree. these emotions are VERY important. understanding your emotions is critical, then learning to accept them. If you don't and hide emotions or don't pay attention to them your ****ed and bad things can happen to you.

It's like if you were hungry and you decided to ignore hunger.

Rather learn what hunger means, and it means your body craves food... so eat.
 

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You mean I shouldn't be nervous when I'm talking to a girl ? No way!:rolleyes:
 

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Originally posted by CapiCrimini
wow... i totally disagree. these emotions are VERY important. understanding your emotions is critical, then learning to accept them. If you don't and hide emotions or don't pay attention to them your ****ed and bad things can happen to you.

It's like if you were hungry and you decided to ignore hunger.

Rather learn what hunger means, and it means your body craves food... so eat.
I didn't say ignore them, I said...

how wasteful it is to let your emotions control you. Being nervous, anxious, scared are all natural reactions, but they are 'useless'. Keep these emotions under control
 

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Originally posted by Duke
You mean I shouldn't be nervous when I'm talking to a girl ? No way!:rolleyes:
You're pretty quick there Duke, nothing gets by you huh, lol.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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how wasteful it is to let your emotions control you. Being nervous, anxious, scared are all natural reactions, but they are 'useless'. Keep these emotions under control
Useless meaning of no use... i do agree with you. A nice post but it can be mispercieved.

IF feelings are "useless" then they are of no use. Rather feelings are very useful as long as you understand thema nd are able to constrol them.

Books are useless if you cannot read. But once you can those "useless" things can become very valuable.

You might want to also look into WANTS and NEEDS.
 

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Originally posted by CapiCrimini
Rather feelings are very useful as long as you understand thema nd are able to constrol them.
You mean what I know... :D
 
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