"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Hunger

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When I started lifting about two weeks ago, I naturally also changed my diet. I'm not yet on a very good diet, but I'm working on it. I've cut out the food that is sugar/fat dense and replaced it with protein/slow carbs. I've gone from 3-4 meals/day to 5-6. I'm probably not getting enough proteines yet, which I'm working on. I'll go buy some tuna/salmon/chicken and possibly order some whey soon (damn it's overpriced!). I eat a lot of eggs instead as of now.

What I've started noticing the last days is that even though I'm eating larger portions and more often, I get hungry all the time. Even after a large meal, I feel like I could eat a couple of sandwiches, and when I haven't eaten for 2-3 hours I'm getting really hungry.

Why is this and is it good or bad? Should I listen to the body and eat whenever I'm hungry? Am I still getting too little food?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It's very good, it means your metabolism is jacked thanks to a better diet and energy expenditure (working out). Basically, you're burning calories all the time now at an increased rate - hence why you get hungry quicker. It's a very good thing.

I wouldn't advise eating other meals between meals though - snack on some fruit or veg or a few nuts, and make your regular meals larger.
 

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Alright sounds reasonable. I'm getting thirsty all the time so I'm drinking more water. I guess it correlates quite well with burning more cals.

Btw, I drink quite a lot of caffeine throughout the day (lots of tea). How is this affecting metabolism and overall workout effects? Should I try to reduce it?
 

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coffeine increase your metabolism. I don't see it as a problem as long as you drink lots of water and eat some more.
 

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The 2-3 hour thing is to give your body time to digest. If you're hungry before then, that's a good signal that you can eat more frequently.

I doubt anyone will say you should ignore your hunger and hold off from eating if you're trying to bulk.

I like Warboss Alex's approach: Eat the protein first, then the carbs.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I doubt anyone will say you should ignore your hunger and hold off from eating if you're trying to bulk.
Hunger should never be ignored, no, but food eaten between your 6-7 regular meals a day is more likely to go into adipose tissue if it's high-calorie, so stick to fruit, veg, a handful of nuts/raisins or something similar.

Once your body's adapted to eating every 2-3hours it'll get hungry a little while before a meal - if you get hungry too soon after eating a meal, then you're not eating enough in that meal.

As far as caffeine is concerned, it's our friend. If you like it, drink green tea itself - a better thermogenic than regular tea/coffee plus it's packed with anti-oxidants (which, strangely enough, you can also get from 100% cocoa powder.. </useless trivia>) - I drink two cups (500ml or so) of green tea before my every cardio session, and a cup of strong coffee before a workout is good too.

Remember that hot caffeine beverages (hot tea for example) can dehydrate us, and dehydration is a bad thing, so keep up that water intake too!
 

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Yup I drink lots of water as well. I've no problem drinking much as long as I remember to do it. Water tastes exceptionally well at times.

Btw, will a higher metabolism increase the need for anti-oxidants or is that just a general piece of advice?
 

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Thanks Warboss Alex.


Let me clarify...

Snacking ---> not so good

Shortening the time between meals because you get hungry for another meal sooner than a preset time ----> fine

You may end up eating more meals a day of course (and that's fine).
 
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