"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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asianbboy

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Most of the posts I read here basically say that humor is a natural by-product of confidence. I don't think that's the case - seems to be that confidence in conversation is knowing that you are funny. Does anyone have a good guide on actually becoming humorous? Maybe something about voice inflection, timing, etc.
Yes, I think humor for some people comes naturally. But I'm just so detached from observing the world from a funny perspective. A good deal of it may have to do with too much self-consciousness, but again, I think that's only part of it.
Oh, and I've realized that this is by far the most important part of game.. and also my weakest.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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No answers here. I'm funny only when I'm not trying to be. Otherwise I stay smart and pretty quiet, and play the straight man for my funny friends.
 
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asianbboy said:
Most of the posts I read here basically say that humor is a natural by-product of confidence. I don't think that's the case - seems to be that confidence in conversation is knowing that you are funny. Does anyone have a good guide on actually becoming humorous? Maybe something about voice inflection, timing, etc.
Yes, I think humor for some people comes naturally. But I'm just so detached from observing the world from a funny perspective. A good deal of it may have to do with too much self-consciousness, but again, I think that's only part of it.
Oh, and I've realized that this is by far the most important part of game.. and also my weakest.
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I generally say things that amuse me, it's pretty much natural. Being funny isn't something you can fake. Maybe watch quality stand-up, it could help
 
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Well the first part is to stop being self-conscious. If you're self-conscious, you'll just start worrying if everything you say will be funny...and in result...you won't be funny.
 
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Theres a really good article or two in the DJ bible, you should give them a read.

Basically though just start watching a lot of programmes that you find funny, it should wear off on you.

Also helps to talk about stuff that you actually find funny, rather than just saying something for the laugh.

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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