"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Most of the posts I read here basically say that humor is a natural by-product of confidence. I don't think that's the case - seems to be that confidence in conversation is knowing that you are funny. Does anyone have a good guide on actually becoming humorous? Maybe something about voice inflection, timing, etc.
Yes, I think humor for some people comes naturally. But I'm just so detached from observing the world from a funny perspective. A good deal of it may have to do with too much self-consciousness, but again, I think that's only part of it.
Oh, and I've realized that this is by far the most important part of game.. and also my weakest.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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No answers here. I'm funny only when I'm not trying to be. Otherwise I stay smart and pretty quiet, and play the straight man for my funny friends.
 
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asianbboy said:
Most of the posts I read here basically say that humor is a natural by-product of confidence. I don't think that's the case - seems to be that confidence in conversation is knowing that you are funny. Does anyone have a good guide on actually becoming humorous? Maybe something about voice inflection, timing, etc.
Yes, I think humor for some people comes naturally. But I'm just so detached from observing the world from a funny perspective. A good deal of it may have to do with too much self-consciousness, but again, I think that's only part of it.
Oh, and I've realized that this is by far the most important part of game.. and also my weakest.
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I generally say things that amuse me, it's pretty much natural. Being funny isn't something you can fake. Maybe watch quality stand-up, it could help
 
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Well the first part is to stop being self-conscious. If you're self-conscious, you'll just start worrying if everything you say will be funny...and in result...you won't be funny.
 
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Theres a really good article or two in the DJ bible, you should give them a read.

Basically though just start watching a lot of programmes that you find funny, it should wear off on you.

Also helps to talk about stuff that you actually find funny, rather than just saying something for the laugh.

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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