"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Humor = Confidence

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The question I always come across on this board from the new guys is along the lines of "I don't know what to talk about when I'm with her!" The key is to use humor and let it play itself out.
Last night I met up with this honey for dinner and it was exactly like that - but I just am so confident about things that it never crosses my mind that I will run out of topics. But a sense of humor is very appealing to women - and once you get her laughing it is SO EASY to turn the discussion into whatver direction you like - I personally prefer sex. : ) And the way I use humor is to poke fun at who I'm with - talking about the tattoo she told me about on her ass, asking her where the back door is so I can sneak out, etc. All in good fun and it keeps everyone loose. So a few lame jokes last night and the next thing I know she is grabbing my knee and we are making out during the cab ride home.
Think about a situation where you met a woman for the first time and you could tell there was no chemistry. Maybe when you saw her from across that room you really wanted to meet her, but once you appraoched and picked up on her disinterest, then you became disinterested and wanted nothing more to do with her. SAME EXACT THING! Attitudes are contagious! If you are having fun, so will she!
Humor, above all, is a sign of confidence. Like any entertainer, you put yourself on the line - not everything you say will be found funny, but you are taking a risk...showing confidence.
So there ya have it. And if you don't think you are "funny" enough to pull this off, remember...it's a state of mind. Have the confidence and mindset to think you are witty and entertaining and she will, too.

TCB
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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see! this ^^^^^guy^^^^^^ is a true "Master Don Juan".....I learnt SO much from him.

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As always bro, "YOU THA MAN!!!".

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Thankz bro!

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Originally posted by BigDon:

The question I always come across on this board from the new guys is along the lines of "I don't know what to talk about when I'm with her!" The key is to use humor and let it play itself out.
Last night I met up with this honey for dinner and it was exactly like that - but I just am so confident about things that it never crosses my mind that I will run out of topics. But a sense of humor is very appealing to women - and once you get her laughing it is SO EASY to turn the discussion into whatver direction you like - I personally prefer sex. : ) And the way I use humor is to poke fun at who I'm with - talking about the tattoo she told me about on her ass, asking her where the back door is so I can sneak out, etc. All in good fun and it keeps everyone loose. So a few lame jokes last night and the next thing I know she is grabbing my knee and we are making out during the cab ride home.
Think about a situation where you met a woman for the first time and you could tell there was no chemistry. Maybe when you saw her from across that room you really wanted to meet her, but once you appraoched and picked up on her disinterest, then you became disinterested and wanted nothing more to do with her. SAME EXACT THING! Attitudes are contagious! If you are having fun, so will she!
Humor, above all, is a sign of confidence. Like any entertainer, you put yourself on the line - not everything you say will be found funny, but you are taking a risk...showing confidence.
So there ya have it. And if you don't think you are "funny" enough to pull this off, remember...it's a state of mind. Have the confidence and mindset to think you are witty and entertaining and she will, too.

TCB
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Good post.

The authors of "How to Succeed with Women" mention just how scared women are that any guy is a potential psycho. A sense of humor helps to alleviate those fears.

Humor means you are comfortable, and if you are at ease with yourself, then she wil feel similarly.
 

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The thing that makes me mad is when someone says that "they've found the ultimate key on attracting women" and says it's humor. Only a few people are funny all of the time and make up funny things whenever they want to. So we got the secret, you have to be funny! well that's so easy isn't it????
I've got another secret to you all, be Brad Pitt! simple! all you have to do is Brad Pit and you'll have women all over you! go and try it out.. you'll thank me later.
 

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Boy83: (Yes I know this was posted 3 months ago, but I'm answering anyway). Being funny is a helluva lot easier than being Brad Pitt (name change forms are such a pain, y'know?) There are a few good posts on this, check out mine in the DJ bible (I'm so proud.)


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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Originally posted by Ryan
see! this ^^^^^guy^^^^^^ is a true "Master Don Juan".....I learnt SO much from him.

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"I have run out of ways to fail; now I can only succeed!!!"

Too bad he ain't here no more
 
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I don't find this humor thing very funny, funny man.
 
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