"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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HUGE missed opportunity. I feel awful.

Darth

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So I'm eating breakfast in the morning, and I walk away from my table to get something and I come back. And this girl sitting at the table next to me comes up to me. She's dressed in pink and she is hot. I would say 9 to 9.5.

She asks me, how biology is going. I said, it's going OK. Where do I know you from? She said she had no idea and she looked down and smiled. I asked her if she was in my class, and she said no, but she was taking it next quarter, and she was just curious. Like an idiot I continued, "But you knew I was in Bio 101, right?" She said no, she had no idea.

So with my cloudy mind, I'm thinking it's not adding up. I don't understand. And then she's walking away, and I add that Bio is pretty easy, so it shouldn't be a problem. Then she smiles and nods and walks out the door.

Then it hits me. That was the girl version of an "approach." When I left, she must have walked over and looked at my textbook and seen that I was in Bio 101, and then gotten up the courage to come talk to me.

I'm good looking, but damn it, I can't think on my feet at all. This has ALWAYS been my problem. I have a brick for a brain.

Logically thinking about it now, of course that was a BS question, of course I should have gotten her number...in fact I could think of 10 different possibilities I could have carried out. And I would have no problem doing it. I just can't seem to process what is happening until it's too late.

Please knock some sense into me. I feel awful.

Rejection really is better than regret.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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She was probably kicking herself too about how bad her approach was if that was the case. Not the end of the world, you might see her again and if not it's no big deal. No need to get down about it.

Oh and improvisation can be improved.
 

Credos

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Why do we fall?
It's to learn to pick ourself up...
 

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lmao imagine girls beating themselves up over failed approached from guys.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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