"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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HUGE missed opportunity. I feel awful.

Darth

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So I'm eating breakfast in the morning, and I walk away from my table to get something and I come back. And this girl sitting at the table next to me comes up to me. She's dressed in pink and she is hot. I would say 9 to 9.5.

She asks me, how biology is going. I said, it's going OK. Where do I know you from? She said she had no idea and she looked down and smiled. I asked her if she was in my class, and she said no, but she was taking it next quarter, and she was just curious. Like an idiot I continued, "But you knew I was in Bio 101, right?" She said no, she had no idea.

So with my cloudy mind, I'm thinking it's not adding up. I don't understand. And then she's walking away, and I add that Bio is pretty easy, so it shouldn't be a problem. Then she smiles and nods and walks out the door.

Then it hits me. That was the girl version of an "approach." When I left, she must have walked over and looked at my textbook and seen that I was in Bio 101, and then gotten up the courage to come talk to me.

I'm good looking, but damn it, I can't think on my feet at all. This has ALWAYS been my problem. I have a brick for a brain.

Logically thinking about it now, of course that was a BS question, of course I should have gotten her number...in fact I could think of 10 different possibilities I could have carried out. And I would have no problem doing it. I just can't seem to process what is happening until it's too late.

Please knock some sense into me. I feel awful.

Rejection really is better than regret.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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She was probably kicking herself too about how bad her approach was if that was the case. Not the end of the world, you might see her again and if not it's no big deal. No need to get down about it.

Oh and improvisation can be improved.
 

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Why do we fall?
It's to learn to pick ourself up...
 

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lmao imagine girls beating themselves up over failed approached from guys.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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