"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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hug or kiss on the cheek for greeting on first date???

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chance

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what do you guys do? ive had girls hug me when i meet them but sometimes i just approach and we just keep walking and saying hello how's things etc.

how do you do it?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I think there was an episode of friends or something when one of the girls boyfriends tried out sweetheart as a nickname. Didnt work out for him.

In the same manner, do what works for you.

Personally, I walk up, make eye contact, smile, say hi give a one arm hug around the waste (without turning to the side for that faggy one arm fake ass nigga hug) and kiss the cheek. Like out the side of my mouth kiss the cheek. Keep it casual. Kino it up.
 
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even in public? could make them feel uncomfortable around people?
 
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I do the kiss on the cheek with all girls I know. Do whatever you always do. You should be worried less about her and more about yourself. Inner game bro.
 
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right.. yeah usually i've always never touched them. i am not use to it. one date of mine however just walked right up to me and hugged me real tight .. kinda of surprised me as i was just gonna say hey how's it goin? lol.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If you're not comfortable with it, then don't do it. Otherwise it'll seem pretty damn obvious how awkward it is, then THAT is where the discomfort arrives from. Approach with confidence like ya don't give a sh!t.

A man with enough confidence can make a girl blush when he kisses her hand on the greet. I've seen this sh*t b4!
 
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Yeah man in public. Unless you meet your girls in a private back alley?

I dont really think too much about this crap. I just do it.

I think neggy is right. Just do what makes you feel comfortable. Unless you are working hard on inner game and are using this girl as practice to expand your game repertoire.

In self analyzing, I think maybe I do it to show that her space is my space and to show her that I am a boss. And that I am able to work outside of societal norms. But when I do it, I do it because I feel like it. You get what Im saying? Just do whatever it feels natural.

A girl puts more priority in that you feel natural and comfortable rather than the actual manifestation of your actions.
 
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I always do a real hug.

A kiss on the cheek seems to brazen for me, yes I am a wuss :whistle:

What's most confusing for me is what to do at the end of the date. I guess it depends on the logistics of the date itself.
 
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Walk up, shake their hand, keep holding it as you grab their right elbow (lightly) with your left hand, and give a quick peck on the cheek.....make it obvious you're not going for the mouth. This has never failed me.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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