"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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HPV now causes more cancer in men than women

Bible_Belt

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7 Million American Men Carry Cancer-Causing HPV Virus
https://www.nytimes.com/2017/10/16/...rican-men-carry-cancer-causing-hpv-virus.html

The incidence of mouth and throat cancers caused by the human papilloma virus in men has now surpassed the incidence of HPV-related cervical cancers in women, researchers report.

The study, in the Annals of Internal Medicine, found that 11 million men and 3.2 million women in the United States had oral HPV infections. Among them, 7 million men and 1.4 million women had strains that can cause cancers of the throat, tongue and other areas of the head and neck.

The risk of infection was higher for smokers, for people who have had multiple sex partners, and for men who have sex with men. Frequent oral sex also increased the risk. The rate was higher among men who also had genital HPV. (Almost half of men aged 18 to 60 have a genital HPV infection, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.)

Neither age nor income made a difference in high-risk oral infection rates, but rates among non-Hispanic blacks were higher than other races and ethnicities.

HPV vaccination is recommended starting at age 11 or 12 and is effective, said the senior author, Ashish A. Deshmukh, an assistant professor at the University of Florida, and “it’s crucial that parents vaccinate boys as well as girls.”

The lead author, Kalyani Sonawane, also at the University of Florida, said that behavioral change is important, too, particularly smoking cessation. “The difference in oral HPV infection between smokers and nonsmokers is staggering,” she said.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Perhaps more guys are now getting tested for cancer than before.
 

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Yes. Boys and girls. My girls got the guardasil. I didn't know boys were getting vaccines until after they left home.
 
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I asked for a test and they said they didn't even do it on males.

I know I have HSV-1 and that's it. I don't even consider that to be a big deal, as I think over 50% of the population has it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Who Dares Win

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Im kinda ignorant about it, how do you test if you have hpv and how do you fix it?

Do you need medication or our immune system get rid of it by time?
 

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They test for the antibodies to HPV, signs that your immune system is fighting it. Then they tell you that you have a dread disease for life...which will, in all likelihood, show no symptoms, nor will you infect anyone else, at least with warts. There's no cure, or even treatment once you have it. The HPV vaccine for young people is all healthcare has to offer.
 

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The goal of the vaccine for both young men and women is to prevent the spread of the disease because it causes cancer in both sexes.
 

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The meaningful point of the story here is to be very careful what you Eat…
So don’t even think about putting your mouth and/or tongue on a ONL…
 
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Any stats about the % of chances you have to get it if you screw an infected woman?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Any stats about the % of chances you have to get it if you screw an infected woman?
Whatever that transmission % is, I have no idea, but condoms only reduce it by 50%, whether it's HPV or HSV. That's a dirty little secret that the health authorities try to keep quiet, because they fear that it will erode trust in comdoms and fewer people will use them.
 
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