"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Me: Hey Sara, I noticed you were watching me skateboarding a couple of weeks ago (we only see each other once a week). I have a question
Her what
Me: Well do know how I was doing on my ollie? Was I getting into air? (blah blah blah)
Her: She answers my questions
Me: Ok thanks. Would you like to learn how to skateboard? (OK she is fairly interested in me already and Im making my move now. She likes Ryan Sheckler, but if shes intersted would she accept?)
Her: (Yes or no)
Me: Ok let me call you sometime.

Would ths work in a group and when she's alone?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Grand Wizzard Alamar

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you goin for a grammy with that script?
 

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lol, your way too serious lighten up and have fun. Your too serious with your opener say something like "Hey sara how do you like my amazing skateboarding skills?" and take it from there
 

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You think too much and are over analyzing the situation. Make small talk with her about skateboarding if that is your thing, but don't have a script all planned out.
 

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from my short time on this earth ive learned that nothing ever goes to plan , no matter how simple it is so u just gotta learn to adapt to things on the go. Start off with skateboard talk, and then let the conversation go into w.e
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I personally try to avoid canned lines, especially when they are scripts. I just use those to explain to people how the conversation should go, as an example. They hardly ever go to plan, and if they do and you end up memorizing these long scripts, they tend not to look natural and look rehearsed.
After reading a couple of canned lines, you tend to develop your own. Just approach her with that first line (Hey, noticed you saw me skateboarding a couple of weeks ago!), and see how it goes from there.

I personally would try this type of conversation when she is alone, I find it to be much easier especially because she won't be shy/embarrassed to say yes to you if there is nobody else around. Just relax, have some confidence and you are in! Way too many guys are posting threads in regards to approaches, relax about it and I'm sure you'll do fine! I actually just posted in a thread in regards of how to make conversation. Despite the fact that my reply was directed to him, I feel there is quite of bit of information you can learn from it as well.

URL:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=135617

Hope I helped!
 

Grand Wizzard Alamar

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Zack, if you know how to talk to people, why do you need a memorized opener?
What if she breaks your script and says something unrelated to what you expect?

You can talk. Practice. Here's your new opener:

"Hey." (with a smile)

Work with that. Test yourself and see what you can turn a simple hello into.
 
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