"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How's this for a kiss close?

Lexington

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I have something going on with this one girl and I must say that the lessons I've learned from this site have really helped a great deal. I'm pretty sure there's strong interest so now I've got to close the deal.

For me this is the hardest part. I'm very shy with women. EXTREMELY shy. I've been working on fixing this, but I've still got some way to go in this department. So of course going for a kiss is a nerve wracking thought. But I'm going to man up and do it.

I've read about waiting for the right moment etc. but given how shy I am, I'm not sure I'll be able to just do it spontaneously right now. Just thinking about it makes my heart start to race.

So how does this sound:

When we're on a high note on the date, I'm going to pause for a moment and look her right in the eye. Then say, "you know what? I wanna do something,"

When she says, "what?" I'm going in.

Of course, I'll make it seem like it's no big deal and assume she's receptive etc.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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slickaz

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that could work..very well even..but mainly if she is really into you..then nodoubt...lol..good luck let us know..

last time i did kiss close was 4 days agow ith this new chic im seein.

we were walkin on d beach eatin ice cream

she got pistachio and i got macadamia flavours

and i said..

theres a very important life or death question bothering my mind..

she stopped in her tracks n said whats that??

so i walked up close to her and whispered;

pistachio + macadamia + your lips; would they taste as good as they look individually..and then together?

she laughed and said you should try it out and tell me..

so i did..obviously her lips tasted amazing!

good luck
tonight is my second date with her... :) fclose hopeful
 

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When you wake up in the morning you don't think about looking at the clock to see what time it is you just do it.

When you decide on what to wear, you don't about think about what arm goes in the shirt first.

When you decide to walk, you don't think about which leg to lead off with.

Do you ever think about breathing? No, unless you can't.

What I'm getting at is, don't think about just do it as Mark Victor Hansen says
“Don't wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So what. Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident and more and more successful.”

Good Luck mi amigo.
 

Furyguy

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You have to realize that once you man up and do it, you'll feel great regardless of what happens. Win or lose, it'll still make you feel amazing.

I hope to hear back from you as to what happened.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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The August Sky

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i like the move off the movie with Russel Crowe called 3:10 to yuma. when he goes into the bar and meets the waitress...acts like he doesn't know her then kisses her...i really liked that move


he approached her when she wasn't looking..

got up behind her and played with her hair for a half a second

put his hands on her hips and said "you know your looking kind of skinny...but that's alright i don't mind skinny girls as long as they have (blank) eyes."

as he said as long as...he spins her around and looks in her eyes


good stuff
 
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