"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hows this for a cold approach?

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Thought it up with some guy on msn, he seemed to think they would find it a compliment and it would work well.

Me: Hey, how would you like to help my practice for my future career?
Her: What would that be?
Me: A pornstar! :D

Not sure what she'd say next.. Yes or no maybe?


Note: I realise this may seem stupid, but I'm not trying to be a troll..
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Come up with a better 'funny future career' than that.

Porn star will just be a big turn off to any girl lol.


Here i got one you can say that you want to be one of those guys in the booths at carnivals that charge for kisses !
 

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Originally posted by arutha
Thought it up with some guy on msn, he seemed to think they would find it a compliment and it would work well.

Me: Hey, how would you like to help my practice for my future career?
Her: What would that be?
Me: A pornstar! :D

Not sure what she'd say next.. Yes or no maybe?


Note: I realise this may seem stupid, but I'm not trying to be a troll..
Aussie girls would laugh and then you could keep the convo flowing
 

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Well I'll admit I've never done cold approaches before, I'm planning to tomorrow. I have the day free to hit the city, so I'm not sure how well I'd go at continuing the conversation or even if I could manage to do approaches.. Its certainly my full intent at this moment.

Keep the opinions on this one flowing. :D

Cheers.
 

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depends on the girl, some of them would slap you some of them would laugh n some would say wheres the camera ;)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Hey, I came up with a better one.

Me: Hey, you wanna be my mistress while I'm married to the Russian I just bought off the net until she kicks it? :D


I'm just not sure what to say after they say yes...:confused:

I've had about 6 or 7 laugh then say 'yeah sure', but I don't know what to say after they agree...
 

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Try this...

have you heard the one about the deaf porn star and the ditzy blonde who blew him in the mall? She says yes or no and you reply "Huh?". lol.
 

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Re: Try this...

Originally posted by everywomanshero
have you heard the one about the deaf porn star and the ditzy blonde who blew him in the mall? She says yes or no and you reply "Huh?". lol.
**** man that ones funny as hell
 

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arutha. don't try any of these.

they all come off as pre planned and canned.

you need natural humor.

as in; hey look at that <insert something funny>

or an opinion opener.
what do you think of <insert item here>

for example, on friday night i was out with my wingman.

we decided to approach these 2 chicks.

i said to them
"hey what do you think of my mates t-shirt? doesn't it look great."

it was a white t-shirt with a sparkly silver design, sort of like a coat of arms.

it looked awesome in the lights at the club. and it lead into a pretty decent conversation - and we were both involved.
 

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Originally posted by quest
arutha. don't try any of these.

they all come off as pre planned and canned.

you need natural humor.

as in; hey look at that <insert something funny>

or an opinion opener.
what do you think of <insert item here>

for example, on friday night i was out with my wingman.

we decided to approach these 2 chicks.

i said to them
"hey what do you think of my mates t-shirt? doesn't it look great."

it was a white t-shirt with a sparkly silver design, sort of like a coat of arms.

it looked awesome in the lights at the club. and it lead into a pretty decent conversation - and we were both involved.
That's a good one there! My friend and I were doing a similiar approach the other day while at a local bar. We told the girls I was considering getting Lasik treatment and wanted to know whether I looked better with or without glasses. Of course my roomate thinks I look better with glasses but the 4 girls we asked thought I was better without.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Originally posted by quest
arutha. don't try any of these.

they all come off as pre planned and canned.

I've had about 6 or 7 laugh then say 'yeah sure', but I don't know what to say after they agree...
It was online, not in person though. I'm starting to think rediculous ones like the Russian bride one might be pretty good for online stuff, though crap in person. No one at all has not found it funny, and most, when I end the convo soon after, say that I sound like I'm really funny.. Never been into internet dating, and not sure if I'd want to try it. Seems a bit odd to me.

Anyway, in person yeah they probably would come off as canned. Though.. I did try it on my ex gf just because I was in a weird mood. She also laughed then said yes, and that she was honoured to be asked or something like that.
(ended last time because I was AFC and she dumped me because of it, I've changed a lot since then..)
 

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Originally posted by jordannkobe11
Whats Exactly A Cold Approach????
Approaching a chick that you dont know, ie at the mall/street etc.


Anyways. Please please please do not use any of that canned stuff. It sounds worse than Corky on speed. Be natural.
 
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