"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Howd you find out about sosuave.com?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
www.becomeaplyer.com
www.alovelinks.com with dating dynamics by Carlos Xuma and dating wizard by Michael W, very profound teachings.
www.hearthlessbithes.com
If you guys know other websites, share with us.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
isotope
Senior Don Juan
Lordlaxative
Don Juan
www.askmen.com - good dating advice articles as well as quote of the day and an interesting fact of the day.
www.datingclass.com
and as for how I found this site... I think I found a link to the DJ Bible and became very curious.
Hollowpoint
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j/k
LOL. Can you post the thread?Originally posted by 1878
bodybuilding forum had a post in the sex section that was like a billion pages long, all about chicks and guys problems and it had this link in
Someone posted two seduction type links like 6 months ago in the General discussion forum on a bodybuilding forum...
www.wannabebig.com
I don't post under the same name.....though message me with your MSN messenger contact and I'll be glad to chat.
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
Looking for how to get a girlfriend(oneitis) and found this site and have not looked back.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Thx Buddha, God, Sosuave and most of all Google
neobrood
Senior Don Juan
I found this site when I was desperately searching for tips and advice on how to make her change her mind to like me.
some threads that talk about "her"
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=52891
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=52917
I searched google and stumbled upon sites like datingclass.com, seductionmethod.com, and then subscribed to their newsletters, and then read each and every article posted on that site.
For a month, I applied what I learned... um... ****y and funny, not to shower her with compliments... occassional teasing, touch her, more eye contact, smile, etc...
But pffft... too late the hero. I've known her since SEPTEMBER, and been acting like a complete AFC wuss to her until APRIL... For 1 whole friggin year in school, I was using all the AFC techniques on her...
showering her with compliments, following her like a dog, always nodding my head to her, making her lead me, etc... etc... etc...Its understandable... 1 month of DJ techniques vs 10 months of AFC behavior... pfft... what do you expect...
During the month when I was DJing her (more eye contact, touching, teasing her, being ****y and funny, etc...), one day, she told me that I've been acting different lately... and its CREEPING HER OUT. and told me bluntly:
"Forget it. Stop trying to make me into your girlfriend. Can't we just be friends?!?"
And then I got so pissed off... and since then, we havent talked... Damn... if only... I learned about the DJ way of life A YEAR EARLIER, she should've been MINE...
As in... if I DJed her (even at my current newbie skill level I am at today) since September of 2003, until April of 2004... I would bet my last dollar...
SHE WOULD BE COMPLETELY SEDUCED. SHE WOULD BE ON HER KNEES BEGGING ME!!!
I swear... any newb DJ can take her... Take note: This was a chick who approached me even if I am a "hater" type of AFC
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Senior Don Juan
So it was my sophmore year, i was an incredible AFC. Of course i didn't realize it at the time, i thought i was just like a hopeless romantic, no pun intended.
My friend was also a big AFC, and had a crush on this one chick. One day i find out he got her number, i was like WHOA. Then he didn't call her that night, and the next day she was a B*tch to him, so he nexted her.
I was in complete shock about this. Talking to him online he sent me an e-mail that contained the greatest thing i had ever read at the time. Pooks- How to be a man.
Nothing in my entire life struck a cord with me as much as that e-mail did. At the time he wasn't telling me where he got it from. But after i read that e-mail i was a changed man. He sent me another e-mail and i forget what it was, but it was also very insigtful. It was not till a week later, i didn't even beg, that he showed me SS.com. I still feel utterely thankful for what he did.
And never look back since.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Don Pablo
Senior Don Juan
TyTe`EyEs
Master Don Juan
heres the link
http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?threadid=141989
4025 replies as write this and im sure they had one beofre that was even bigger
That was the beginning. I was extremely frustrated with women (senior in HS) and I had no idea what was wrong with me b/c of media brainwashing. I was desperate for some info. So after opening my mind with that article, I stumbled on the Doc Love archive at www.askmen.com/dating/doclove , which pretty much put me on the road to becoming a DJ. Finally, somebody mentioned this site to me and I just got around to reading the bible a month ago.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.