Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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How You Control Who Likes You.

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Great post. Reminded me how cold I can be sometimes if I'm worried about acceptance. Will definitely be a warm, acceptance-expecting gent next time I'm out.
 
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I agree with this 100%. When I'm out by myself at a bar, I can make friends pretty quickly. I'm not sure how this theory would affect attraction with women though. There's plenty of guys who have girls hanging around them but it doesn't mean they're necessarily banging them.
 
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you ever hear anyone here say "Assume she is attracted to you, assume attraction". I find that when i do this is reduces rejection and you are more loose and act more friendly towards the person you are trying to talk to.
 
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JohnChops said:
you ever hear anyone here say "Assume she is attracted to you, assume attraction". I find that when i do this is reduces rejection and you are more loose and act more friendly towards the person you are trying to talk to.
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Now, how to assume attraction and TRULY believe it? Just made a post about this in DJ discussion. Would be good to have you weigh in.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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