How you carry yourself.

[Caldus]

I hear a lot that you should carry yourself properly. What does this really mean? I know the obvious stuff like don't walk with your head down, etc. but what do you guys really mean when you say carry yourself right? I think this is something I need to work on. Either that or I need to work on smiling more. I'm bad at smiling. It usually looks fake when I do it and I'm trying to figure out how people can keep a smile on their face all day long. I just don't get it.

Another thing: I'm still pretty shy around girls simply because I don't know what to say. I can always come up with some topic but I can never ever get past that small talk stage with any girl. I never know what kind of topics are good.

 

[Wiesman44]

hang out with more girls. It comes with experience. You cant just read up on what to say to women. Its not that simple. go make some friends with girls, hang out with them, and go for it from there.

 

[baracus]

I carry myself well by packing a handcannon.

 

[Caldus]

OK I understand about the hanging out with more girls part, but how should I "carry myself"?

 

[Tha Realnezz]

...as someone who can approached but not played.

I ignore women that play games and the ones that I don't want.I put off subtle yet sexual bodylanguage and vibes some of the time and other times I'm very aloof.

I'm a mix between a cool guy and a pure azzhole.

 

[AverageFC]

carry yourself like you own the damn place. Just tell yourself you runs this b1tch.

 

[SELF-MASTERY]

NO BS-

1.)Learn to love yourself,

2.) learn to luv the life that you currently live, instead of fantasizing about what could be.

3.) Stop being so damn self- conscience. iT DOESN'T matter what stragers think of you.

4.) Dress as well as you can.

5.) Get confidence by actually approaching women. You will not find it in the DJ bible.

6.) Get a life, by finding out what you really enjoy.

7.) GrOW SOME BALLS

8.) Be positive

Do the above and you will "carry" yourself in a carefree confident manner.

 

[CoRVeTTe6699]

#1 .. dont be shy.. girls sense it like bees...

theres nothing to be nervous about

in a conversation, make eye contact.. dont fold your arms... smile.. listen to her...dont fidget...stand tall...dont look down at the floor...be confident..girls are just as nervous as you

practice makes perfect!

you'll get it!

 

[Fumbduck]

Pretty much everything "SELF-MASTERY" said...Nicely said bro.

You need to find out what makes you 'unique' from the bunch. Perhaps developing your own style, (please don't go gothic, or anything crazy!) just draw attention to a strong point you have. You also need to be confident, this radiates through to people, be assertive, and make your point known when you speak.

Most importantly, NEVER be a doormat for anyone- you need to stand up for what your beliefs are. To anyone and everyone, men, women, even HB10's.

I carry myself by not giving a fvck what people think. I've seen this mentality on this website a few times now: "YOU ARE THE CATCH".

^^I think that's great, and i'm beginning to live by it (however not to complete arrogance)

'Think and you shall become' -Pook

-FD

 

[whistler]

What AverageFC said about acting like you own the place is dead on.

It's sounds cliche, but think about. Imagine it actually IS your building, and that you have the wealth and prestige to own it.

Keep you back straight. Move slowly, and plan your movements. Also, be relaxed, take up space, and smile softly. Those are all the qualities of a guy that has earned a great deal of power.

 

[SELF-MASTERY]

I was tempted to suggest "act like u own the place," but if the guy doesn't feel as if he owns the damn place, then its all an act. And women can spot a fake a mile away.

 

[Lifeforce]

Lift some heavy ass weight and the way you walk away from the gym after doing heavy sets off squats, that's the way you walk. I'm getting sick off all *****es who walk around trying to think they own the place. They look like clowns, it shines through they don't feel that powerful inside.

Lift weights ---> Feel more powerful ---> more powerful body language

 

[Caldus]

I've been working out since September last year and have been satisfied with the results so far. I think I just carry myself in an unconfident way even though I don't realize it. Like as though it's a bad habit. I've heard from so many people that this is a very important trait to have - to carry yourself well. But I've never understood what that truly means. Because I mean how does someone else see that you're confident just because your head is up and your back is straight? Lots of people do that (and I'm pretty sure I do all the time too). I'm not so sure if I believe this stuff. I think it has more to do with stuff like smiling, clothes, cologne, and good eye contact.

 

[Double]

lol true about the "squat walk", i laughed about myself because the shoulder wide apart walk looks kinda strange, but i cant walk normal anymore. same with shoulders/chest....how was i able to let them hung....lol dunno



you say you are content about the results but tell us more. i cant bbelieve that your're the only person that doesn't get the"workout effect"