"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Backstory if it matters, 3rd date with my other current interest and we get on the topic of an event going on up in New England.

I more or less said something like we can make a day of it if we wanted, and she follows up we can actually make a whole weekend out of it if you wanted... Now we didnt get to much more thank making out at the end of the night. Does the suggesting spending a weekend together on her part intimate that sex is in the near future. I was trying to push it before I left but seemed to get mixed signals.
 

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Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Make a weekend out of it? How far is the event from where you live? Would it make sense to get a hotel for it?
 

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Stop thinking so hard.
Girl want's to spend more time=Interest

We have no way of knowing what her sexual intentions are, but if I were to fancy a guess, I'd say you're in there like booty hair.
 

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its a four hour drive each way. More or less NY to Philly, and yeah a hotel would be the logical thing.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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She might've just sensed you were a bit nervous in askin her to New England for the day and to calm your worries she replied with "Why not make a weekend of it"...

in other words "Course we can!", she's just saying that cause she really likes u. Up to u if ya have sex or not, it'll only be the 4th date if ya did so she wouldn't think less of u if u didn't want to have sex with her.

I'd get ready for the whole "DON'T U FIND ME ATTRACTIVE!!!" bs if you don't though ;)
 

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yeah, thats the way I took it myself. However, she has been busy with a deadline so I was not expecting much the last date. However, I keep getting mixed signals which is messing with my game. I am actually quite annoyed she did not return my call from the other day yet, but really have no right bc I know she is busy.

I guess I will just give it some more time and see if she calls.
 

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Sigh, always counter act a woman's mixed signals with mixed signals of your own. Ought to put an end to her silly games.
 

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Ok if you are going to go with her and would like to make all the days of the event then getting a hotel is strongly recommended, for various reasons. :D Tell her it would be more cost and time effective instead of driving 4 hours each way for a couple of days. Get a room with two beds so you don't send the wrong image. But remember just because there are two beds doesn't mean both will get used :rockon:
 

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ok makes sense, I am going to see how that reacts. So what kind of mixed signals should I use. Like when she calls just not return her call for a few days, or would it be better to like pass on her asking to go out... is that too extreme. I have been so neurotic lately, bc luckly I have ran into not one but two chicks that I could consider to be potential for LTR, although its early, so I have been trying to do things perfectly to maxamize my chances of things evolving with both.
 

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Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

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