"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How would you respond to this?

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Rubato

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You guys get millions of threads like this, so I apologize in advance for creating another one. I'm too tired and drunk tonight to think of anything to say beyond sending a copy and paste of my schedule and saying "pick something, *****".

Long story short - met an HB9 at the ballroom dance competition team practice. Want to fvck her. Have been gaming her pretty well IMO. Got this facebook message after dancing with her once tonight and blowing her off for the rest of the night:

Oh hello there. sooooo I have a question. I was wondering what your schedule was like and if ya might wanna help me outside of practices untill i get my partner. I feel..idk. I'm the kind of person who will cry when I get overly stressed/can't figure something out right away and I just don't want to do that. So let me know if you can help if not I UNDERSTAND lol. its ok trust me:)

Thanks!

As I have stated many times before, I am NOT looking for a relationship here. Read this message. The girl is obviously immature and probably crazy. But she's got an A+ body, blond hair, blue eyes and can move her hips like an angel.

Obviously, I want to get together with her. She basically asked me out on a date. What she also doesn't realize is that since I'm an officer, I'm one of the guys who assigns partners. The kids don't usually get to pick unless they're an advanced dancer and actually know what they're looking for in a partner. So she's waiting to be paired up with someone that I'm going to pick.

But there's not really anything else to say. I get IOI's from the girl, she walks in, gives me a huge hug, squeezes my hand when I squeeze hers, is comfortable with eye contact, let's me dance very close to her, laughs at everything I say, even when it's absolutely restarted (I think I've used the same lines on her multiple times and she's never done anything but laugh). No boyfriend. Just an immature 18 year old freshman.

How would you respond?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Diaforetikos

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Bad idea to mix work/hobby with a potential lady friend. If things don't workout between you two, crap would be awkward. That's my advice.

Here is what you wanna hear:

Go for it. Be her partner, get what you want (assuming you know how to get it). Tell her you already told her you didn't want a relationship. Then move on. Simple.
 

iqqi

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I think that she is very into you, and you could have your way with her.

However, I think that you are right in assuming that she is naive, immature, and a little unstable <---- naive + immature generally does = unstable.

The moral part of me says find better prey.
 
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