guys, i'll probably meet a coworker I dated several months ago, whom I had sex with, then I became needy and clingy and, as expected, she tried to LJBF me but got the "thanks, but no thanks" answer. I walked away and 3-4 months have passed now. What's the best answer to her likely "I'm sorry that things didn't work out"? Of course this is not because she's really sorry for me, it's just because she feels uncomfortable and has to stop her hamster running thanks my unlikely validation
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
how would you reply to this?
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Man up and own the fact that you like her.
Face the reality of her disinterest without blaming her for it, or demanding to be treated according to some special protocol of how you think guys should be treated.
Accept the pain and frustration without covering it up or pretending not to care. Its brave to be vulnerable, its brave to love someone who doesnt requite it, and the heroes reward is often suffering. Any shortcut over these truths I see as something that will hinder your development as a man.
Ego-protection and saving face is beneath us, that is my feeling.
Face the reality of her disinterest without blaming her for it, or demanding to be treated according to some special protocol of how you think guys should be treated.
Accept the pain and frustration without covering it up or pretending not to care. Its brave to be vulnerable, its brave to love someone who doesnt requite it, and the heroes reward is often suffering. Any shortcut over these truths I see as something that will hinder your development as a man.
Ego-protection and saving face is beneath us, that is my feeling.
Skyline
Master Don Juan
Sounds like to she's trying to satisfy her ego. I would respond with:joker79 said:
Nothing.
Just walk away from her, just like you did before.
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Walk away. Say nothing. Drop her ass. Your princess is in another castle anyway.
Case closed. Exit the courtroom.
Case closed. Exit the courtroom.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.