guys, i'll probably meet a coworker I dated several months ago, whom I had sex with, then I became needy and clingy and, as expected, she tried to LJBF me but got the "thanks, but no thanks" answer. I walked away and 3-4 months have passed now. What's the best answer to her likely "I'm sorry that things didn't work out"? Of course this is not because she's really sorry for me, it's just because she feels uncomfortable and has to stop her hamster running thanks my unlikely validation
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
how would you reply to this?
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Man up and own the fact that you like her.
Face the reality of her disinterest without blaming her for it, or demanding to be treated according to some special protocol of how you think guys should be treated.
Accept the pain and frustration without covering it up or pretending not to care. Its brave to be vulnerable, its brave to love someone who doesnt requite it, and the heroes reward is often suffering. Any shortcut over these truths I see as something that will hinder your development as a man.
Ego-protection and saving face is beneath us, that is my feeling.
Face the reality of her disinterest without blaming her for it, or demanding to be treated according to some special protocol of how you think guys should be treated.
Accept the pain and frustration without covering it up or pretending not to care. Its brave to be vulnerable, its brave to love someone who doesnt requite it, and the heroes reward is often suffering. Any shortcut over these truths I see as something that will hinder your development as a man.
Ego-protection and saving face is beneath us, that is my feeling.
Skyline
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Sounds like to she's trying to satisfy her ego. I would respond with:joker79 said:
Nothing.
Just walk away from her, just like you did before.
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Walk away. Say nothing. Drop her ass. Your princess is in another castle anyway.
Case closed. Exit the courtroom.
Case closed. Exit the courtroom.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.