"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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How would you react to a woman suddenly getting sexually aggressive?

The_Reaper

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Recently I spoke on Instant Message to a HB7 that I have known for years, and once dated for a short time, never slept with her though.

We were flirtatious enough, as usual, and suddenly she got aggressive: I wonder what you're like in bed, bet you have a big ****, and basically, I want to f*ck you.

It threw me off a little. (I liked it though). She's a hit-&-quit type of girl - she has a boyfriend and she's getting sick of him. I intentionally didn't follow her$ sexual frame, e.g.

Her: I won't be with my boyfriend any longer. Getting bored.
Me: He's getting bored of you, huh? You better do more to please him.
Her: Oh, I do plenty to please him...
Me: Not enough apparently.


Her: I'm very good in bed.
Me: Oh please.
Her: Maybe some day you'll find out
Me: If you play your cards right

Kept this **** up for a while, then just changed into a more sexual frame.


Thoughts?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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SomethingClever

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You give her the d1ck. It's a tough job, but someone's gotta do it.
 

IPalindromeI

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Don't be the backup guy she goes to when she needs validation. Never, ever.

She knows you want her, and thinks it will only be a matter of time before you come running after her with your tongue wagging out. Keep up what you are doing and refuse to give in, until she starts showing signs of insecurity about whether you want her or not. Then you hit it. Hard.

Currently, she sees herself as the 'head b*tch in charge', able to take down any man she wants. If you cave in under these circumstances, you'll be just another guy she f*cks and chucks behind her boyfriend's back.

If you swing the balance of power in your favor, and get her chasing you rather than standing there taunting you with a big steak, so to speak - you'll be far better off in the long run. You'll be able to do what you want with her, basically. Keep her for a while, or let her go - it will be your choice, on your terms, with you guiding the outcome.

You want her to want you and be willing to jump through hoops for it. Not simply going up to her and taking that steak out of her hand. If you do that, it will be her choice, on her terms, and she surely will guide the outcome.
 

horaholic

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Palindrome has a point there. Chicks have been known to say that for attention purposes only.

My opinion: You should have called her out. You had her in a sexual frame, and she was (supposedly) horny. I would have wrote something like "Well, you know where I live, and I'll be expecting a knock on my door shortly."

Do you guys think that would be controlling the frame? It seems that way to me. It would be making her work for it.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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