"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

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How would you react to a woman suddenly getting sexually aggressive?

The_Reaper

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Recently I spoke on Instant Message to a HB7 that I have known for years, and once dated for a short time, never slept with her though.

We were flirtatious enough, as usual, and suddenly she got aggressive: I wonder what you're like in bed, bet you have a big ****, and basically, I want to f*ck you.

It threw me off a little. (I liked it though). She's a hit-&-quit type of girl - she has a boyfriend and she's getting sick of him. I intentionally didn't follow her$ sexual frame, e.g.

Her: I won't be with my boyfriend any longer. Getting bored.
Me: He's getting bored of you, huh? You better do more to please him.
Her: Oh, I do plenty to please him...
Me: Not enough apparently.


Her: I'm very good in bed.
Me: Oh please.
Her: Maybe some day you'll find out
Me: If you play your cards right

Kept this **** up for a while, then just changed into a more sexual frame.


Thoughts?
 

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SomethingClever

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You give her the d1ck. It's a tough job, but someone's gotta do it.
 

IPalindromeI

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Don't be the backup guy she goes to when she needs validation. Never, ever.

She knows you want her, and thinks it will only be a matter of time before you come running after her with your tongue wagging out. Keep up what you are doing and refuse to give in, until she starts showing signs of insecurity about whether you want her or not. Then you hit it. Hard.

Currently, she sees herself as the 'head b*tch in charge', able to take down any man she wants. If you cave in under these circumstances, you'll be just another guy she f*cks and chucks behind her boyfriend's back.

If you swing the balance of power in your favor, and get her chasing you rather than standing there taunting you with a big steak, so to speak - you'll be far better off in the long run. You'll be able to do what you want with her, basically. Keep her for a while, or let her go - it will be your choice, on your terms, with you guiding the outcome.

You want her to want you and be willing to jump through hoops for it. Not simply going up to her and taking that steak out of her hand. If you do that, it will be her choice, on her terms, and she surely will guide the outcome.
 

horaholic

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Palindrome has a point there. Chicks have been known to say that for attention purposes only.

My opinion: You should have called her out. You had her in a sexual frame, and she was (supposedly) horny. I would have wrote something like "Well, you know where I live, and I'll be expecting a knock on my door shortly."

Do you guys think that would be controlling the frame? It seems that way to me. It would be making her work for it.
 

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