"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How would you react to a woman suddenly getting sexually aggressive?

The_Reaper

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Recently I spoke on Instant Message to a HB7 that I have known for years, and once dated for a short time, never slept with her though.

We were flirtatious enough, as usual, and suddenly she got aggressive: I wonder what you're like in bed, bet you have a big ****, and basically, I want to f*ck you.

It threw me off a little. (I liked it though). She's a hit-&-quit type of girl - she has a boyfriend and she's getting sick of him. I intentionally didn't follow her$ sexual frame, e.g.

Her: I won't be with my boyfriend any longer. Getting bored.
Me: He's getting bored of you, huh? You better do more to please him.
Her: Oh, I do plenty to please him...
Me: Not enough apparently.


Her: I'm very good in bed.
Me: Oh please.
Her: Maybe some day you'll find out
Me: If you play your cards right

Kept this **** up for a while, then just changed into a more sexual frame.


Thoughts?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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SomethingClever

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You give her the d1ck. It's a tough job, but someone's gotta do it.
 

IPalindromeI

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Don't be the backup guy she goes to when she needs validation. Never, ever.

She knows you want her, and thinks it will only be a matter of time before you come running after her with your tongue wagging out. Keep up what you are doing and refuse to give in, until she starts showing signs of insecurity about whether you want her or not. Then you hit it. Hard.

Currently, she sees herself as the 'head b*tch in charge', able to take down any man she wants. If you cave in under these circumstances, you'll be just another guy she f*cks and chucks behind her boyfriend's back.

If you swing the balance of power in your favor, and get her chasing you rather than standing there taunting you with a big steak, so to speak - you'll be far better off in the long run. You'll be able to do what you want with her, basically. Keep her for a while, or let her go - it will be your choice, on your terms, with you guiding the outcome.

You want her to want you and be willing to jump through hoops for it. Not simply going up to her and taking that steak out of her hand. If you do that, it will be her choice, on her terms, and she surely will guide the outcome.
 

horaholic

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Palindrome has a point there. Chicks have been known to say that for attention purposes only.

My opinion: You should have called her out. You had her in a sexual frame, and she was (supposedly) horny. I would have wrote something like "Well, you know where I live, and I'll be expecting a knock on my door shortly."

Do you guys think that would be controlling the frame? It seems that way to me. It would be making her work for it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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