"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How would you react to a scene in public?

lizardking82

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Maybe some of you have had a woman slap you in a restaurant or public place, maybe you had one start to scream in anger to embarrass you in front of people. How did you deal with it in that moment and or how would you deal with it were it happen?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I had an issue (twice) with my ex wife as we were going through the divorce process. She became very hostile, crying, shaking, etc when I refused to "talk about working things out"?

The first time was out of the blue. The second time, she set me up.

Both times I smiled and walked away, leaving her there to look like an idiot. I made sure there wasnt a 3rd time and only communicated with her through my attorney.

If a woman did this to me now I would smile and walk away, hopefully leaving her there to pay for the meal/drinks. And she wouldn't get a chance to do it to me again. She would be blocked on everything before I got to my vehicle.
 

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Btw, I asked the question, but forgot to mention a personal experience of what is a scene in public although it involved no slaps or yellings or anything of the kind. The girl who wanted to try her luck with the 40 year old businessman and is now back calling me on my phone, sometime around December, we were out in the "festive village" that was created in the center of the city, were meeting up for a chat and some hot drinks in a cold winter night.

I was in the mood, came there quite happy, told her two short stories about two stupid girls I had shortly talked to that day LOL and in this moment, she gets...way too dramatic. She accuses me of talking to other girls and all that, I wondered just a bit since there had been more than 1 month she was alright, doing no fights and no drama, but this time it was serious. She started crying and would not stop. People started turning their heads and I was feeling really in a bad spot. She continued crying and I had to "force" her to get up so we could leave. We left, she did not stop crying, I didn't even understand why fully LOL she went on with that, we went on and had a drink a bit later, she calmed a bit down and then she went home.

Have never before that or after that been anywhere near a similar situation, but I guess if it were to happen, it would be best to just walk away. Now that I think about it, maybe I should have walked away even in the above described situation.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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