There’s this woman at my school that I’ve taken a liking too and I don’t really know her feelings for me. I met her one day at the school (she works there) and we had a brief chat. I didn’t know she worked there because she was dressed more casual then what she usually wears. Her attire was great but she usually wears a pants suit. As time went on I saw her more and more and every time we saw each other she seemed to take a genuine interest in me. Almost as if she cared about me to an extent. She even gave me her business card and told me to call her anytime. Now I don’t know if it’s just me being over analytical but if there’s a way I can find an “in”, I’m all for it. Here’s the kicker: She’s a 40 something and I’m an early 20 something. She’s divorced and has two “kids” that are a little older than me. Now I know a relationship is completely out of the question but she’s a cool, attractive woman and I would like to have sex with her. She’s all professional at school but she looks like she would shed all of that in the bedroom. I wanna see how great her pussy most likely is but she looks like the type that’ll be like “young man that’s inappropriate” if I even tried to ask her out for “coffee“ as they say. How would you find your way in despite these circumstances?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
How would you pull this off?
- Thread starter S. Pryor
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Man, seriously, what have you got to lose by calling her "anytime" and getting her to meet up with you somewhere?
The worst that could happen is you don't get t bang her, it's not like you are her best friend or anything awkward.
The worst that could happen is you don't get t bang her, it's not like you are her best friend or anything awkward.
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S. Pryor said:
As if she CARED for you? I get the idea that this woman has never given you any signs of sexual interest but she HAS given you signs of caring about you. I don't mean to be rude, but somehow I get the idea that you're still quite the AFC (takes one to know one
). AFC's have the habit of building a "connection" with women, getting close to them, not in a sexual way but more in a "caring" way. Basically they hope that establishing this "connection" will be their way in (to her heart, to her pvssy, whatever). Seriously, do you remember the moment she gave you her business card? What were the two of you talking about before she gave it to you? Were you exchanging signs of sexual interest? Or were you exchanging signs of emotional bonding? The kind that could be described as: "we understand each other", "I know what you've been through", "there is a connection between us" or whatever.I could be totally wrong here, so forgive me if I am...it's just a hunch!
In all fairness, the woman was AT WORK. You think she's gonna be talking some freaky **** at WORK of all places? I can't tell her let's meet up and such and such place cause the number she gave me is her line at the school. Like I said "it would be inappropriate". And I also said, I don't know if I'm being over analytical which you are attempting to prove to be true. Of course that's just my opinion...I could be wrong...
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.