How would you have played this one out?

[Konada]

Met this broad on tinder, nothing came out of it because I was put off by her attitude but I'm curious as to how it could've been played out differently.

Me: Are you asking me out for coffee?

Her: If thats your way of asking girls out, thats not cute.

Me: Nah that's not me, too lame. We can continue with our boring interview questions over coffee, with lots of laughter and possibly outrageous flirting

Her: Doesn't sound enticing to me.

Me: Fair enough

Her: Why not you hit me up with another line? I'm sure you're just more than boring interview questions.

Me: Maybe later (I was done with her at this point with her condescending attitude and expectation I be a entertainment monkey.)

Her: Then maybe never

How would you guys have played this differently?

 

[cola]

It's good to have pride and self respect, but you over reacted a tad.
Facts are, that line was boring and she could have went radio silent but she gave you a out and instead of brushing off the neg and proceeding you got butt hurt.


Her: Why not you hit me up with another line? I'm sure you're just more than boring interview questions.

You: Ooh, you're a witty one. So how about we meet up and discuss my intricate plan to take over the world..
I actually could use a hot female sidekick in my little organization

You got to learn how to stay poised when you don't get the reaction you want.

 

[Trump]

Met this broad on tinder, nothing came out of it because I was put off by her attitude but I'm curious as to how it could've been played out differently.

Me: Are you asking me out for coffee?

Her: If thats your way of asking girls out, thats not cute.

Me: Nah that's not me, too lame. We can continue with our boring interview questions over coffee, with lots of laughter and possibly outrageous flirting

Her: Doesn't sound enticing to me.

Me: Fair enough

Her: Why not you hit me up with another line? I'm sure you're just more than boring interview questions.

Me: Maybe later (I was done with her at this point with her condescending attitude and expectation I be a entertainment monkey.)

Her: Then maybe never

How would you guys have played this differently?

I don't know bro. I would have just said; "Hi, I saw your picture and thought we could connect. Would you like grab a coffee tomorrow afternoon?'

You don't always have to be on with girls you find attractive, just be sincere and get to the point. They know you to sleep with them.

 

[RangerMIke]

Be direct with women. Tell them what you want, where you want to go, and when you want to do this... then wait for them to respond. Any answer other than 'yes' or a counter offer that specifically states a time/place for a meetup is ignored. If they never respond then move on to the next one. It's really that simple.

 

[guru1000]

Konada, time maintenance. You sent four messages to one girl, and had to service a thought with each response. Next time, copy and paste four messages to four different girls with no thoughts:

Konada: Hi

Girl: Hey

Konada: Hey. I'm not much into the back and forth exchange of emails or pen-pal thing. I'd like to meet you for a drink one night this week and get to know each other better. Let me know is that sounds good to you. =) Konada

Keep it mechanical. Find a site in your region that allows you to sort by attractiveness. Then copy & paste the above 20 times/day. Let us know how that works out for you.

 

[Yewki]

How would you guys have played this differently?

Your mistake was letting let her get to you,

I was done with her at this point with her condescending attitude and expectation I be a entertainment monkey?

You needed to play it cool. Soon as you started letting it get personal you lost, regardless of the outcome.

 

[Konada]

Konada, time maintenance. You sent four messages to one girl, and had to service a thought with each response. Next time, copy and paste four messages to four different girls with no thoughts:

Keep it mechanical. Find a site in your region that allows you to sort by attractiveness. Then copy & paste the above 20 times/day. Let us know how that works out for you.

Update:
Tried this out on Tinder. Messaged 11 girls, 5 ignored 1st message, 5 never replied after sending the drinks text. 1 date secured for Friday with HB8. (She superliked me though)

Demographics: 18-23 yos, HB6-8s

 

[zinc4]

I don't even do coffee dates in the first place....I could line up three coffee dates a day at least on Tinder fairly easily....

Sounds like you need better pics to me.

 

[guru1000]

Update:
Tried this out on Tinder. Messaged 11 girls, 5 ignored 1st message, 5 never replied after sending the drinks text. 1 date secured for Friday with HB8. (She superliked me though)
Demographics: 18-23 yos, HB6-8s

Close to a 10% closing ratio. Well done. Though I don’t use Tinder, a 50% response rate is high. You could increase your closing ratio to 20%+ by “working” the 50% response rate, but at the expense of time.

I’m a busy exec. I don’t have time to “game” silly women. Thus, a few minutes of copying and pasting—with no thinking—is time effective, as well as my approach.

I would you encourage you to send another 10-20 messages and schedule one more Friday night date. A double-header. We are going to focus only on one thing for now: developing your social acumen. Schedule the dates exactly 1.5 hours apart at the same place.

I have read your field reports. I know a little about you, and your thinking. On this double-header, I want you to set aside (for now) everything you have read about frame, approach, and what a DJ is supposed to do. Don't be an azzhole. We want only Konada under a time constraint, in abundance, listening to your targets, and one kiss close at the end of each date. Step-by-step. In no time, you will be fvck-closing first dates (Remember these words for future reference).

 

[dustmuffin]

I use the direct approach with success. Just ask them out straight away. I use tinder, bumble and match. This approach has kept me in more dates than I can handle. Plus I don't feel like a dancing monkey and no wasted time being a text buddy.

 

[bigneil]

OP, that girl was rude. People in a match making service should either not reply or be polite. She is trying to punish people, probably because she was used and abused by countless men.

I use the direct approach with success. Just ask them out straight away. I use tinder, bumble and match. This approach has kept me in more dates than I can handle. Plus I don't feel like a dancing monkey and no wasted time being a text buddy.

How do you use the direct approach in a virtual environment? Tinder, Bumble and Match are levels of indirection. A direct approach means you walk right up to her and ask her out without any buying signs (not recommended). The most direct you should be is to simply look her in the eye and hold eye contact. She'll either look away or ask you to come over. If she looks away and doesn't fix her hair or primp her clothing, she is not interested.

 

[CMNILS87]

Woah....***** shield activated. That first text from her.....I would have ejected. It looks like you role reversaled the date to make it like she wants to ask you out and she wasn't feeling it. Would totally work in person, but sarcasm doesn't translate well in text unless she can play along

 

[Konada]

Gotten a few replies along the lines of 'I don't meet up with people unless I get to know them over text first' replies.

Of course, many would suggest moving on but I would love to hear any suggestions as to how you guys would play this to your advantage.

 

[CMNILS87]

Gotten a few replies along the lines of 'I don't meet up with people unless I get to know them over text first' replies.

Of course, many would suggest moving on but I would love to hear any suggestions as to how you guys would play this to your advantage.

What does texting to get to know someone first have to do with anything? you could feed her a bunch of BS that sounds like her perfect man and she'd meet up with you. If you do text her, ask questions about her and somehow turn it erotic. maybe 20 questions, or straight up go for the kill like Guru and ask them to come over. If youre outcome independent, then it shouldnt matter what she says

 

[Mr Wright]

Gotten a few replies along the lines of 'I don't meet up with people unless I get to know them over text first' replies.

Of course, many would suggest moving on but I would love to hear any suggestions as to how you guys would play this to your advantage.

This is all a facade, recently I had a girl pull a similar sort of line on Tinder. In my second message I asked for her number, she said it was too early etc...put it this way, two days later she was fingering herself on snapchat, from there is was easy. I can't remember who said it but the basic idea is to push the envelope until you get your first active resistance, then you know where the limit is and what to do to work through it. With the girl who didn't want to give me her number, I didnt next her because I asked her a few questions and was playful and she was into it, if she wasn't, I would have moved on. Do you sense this girl is just trying to give you a lame excuse because she's not really interested? Or is she just sizing you up to see how you react? The type of objection will tell you what she needs, if she won't meet up, she just needs some comfort so make sure she knows some basic stuff about you. Something that works really well for me at the moment is sending random picture messages over whatsapp, I happen to work in the middle of London so on my walk to work, I might send a picture of something funny I've seen. Instant comfort, works every time. Over a few days you only need to send about 5 different messages but if they're good, you'll bust through that objection and get the date.

 

[guru1000]

Gotten a few replies along the lines of 'I don't meet up with people unless I get to know them over text first' replies.

"Text me, 212-xxx-xxxx =) Konada"

Barter 2-3 text exchanges, then:

Hey, you seem like a cool girl. I'm not much into the back and forth exchange of texts. I would like to meet you one night this week for a drink and get to know each other better. Let me know how your schedule looks.

 

[Konada]

This is all a facade, recently I had a girl pull a similar sort of line on Tinder. In my second message I asked for her number, she said it was too early etc...put it this way, two days later she was fingering herself on snapchat, from there is was easy. I can't remember who said it but the basic idea is to push the envelope until you get your first active resistance, then you know where the limit is and what to do to work through it. With the girl who didn't want to give me her number, I didnt next her because I asked her a few questions and was playful and she was into it, if she wasn't, I would have moved on. Do you sense this girl is just trying to give you a lame excuse because she's not really interested? Or is she just sizing you up to see how you react? The type of objection will tell you what she needs, if she won't meet up, she just needs some comfort so make sure she knows some basic stuff about you. Something that works really well for me at the moment is sending random picture messages over whatsapp, I happen to work in the middle of London so on my walk to work, I might send a picture of something funny I've seen. Instant comfort, works every time. Over a few days you only need to send about 5 different messages but if they're good, you'll bust through that objection and get the date.

That's what I thought as well. My intuition is telling me it's game on. Recently I discovered a simple line that gets me 90% response rates, not sure how it will convert into actual dates though.

 

[Mr Wright]

If it's game on, then escalate the situation.

 

[Konada]

Update:

I have one date tonight at 9pm (HB8) and initially 2 (HB8, HB6) lined up for tomorrow at 830pm at the same venue.

HB8 (Sat) just flaked on me saying 'She has to celebrate her bffs finals ending. Sorry. Prolly next?' Smells like BS, it stings primarily because I know I fvcked up somewhere in the texting since this date was scheduled a week ago, more so I'm losing to another guy is probably more interesting, and hotter than I am.

 

[17 shots]

Your looking too close into what she's saying instead of focusing on the fact that she never stopped responding...