How would I go about this approach?

[Telurn]

There is this girl that works at this place I frequent. The other day when I went she was constantly sparking up a conversation with me (as I was waiting, she would keep coming back to the counter, lean on the counter and talk to me). I wanted to number close her there but wasn't sure if I was confusing interest with her friendlyness and outgoing personality.

I'm a confident guy and i'm not socially awkward, I was able to hold a conversation with her, but I want to take it a little further...get to know her more. I don't want to use some off the wall techniques because I feel like if I do and it fails, I'll be known as "that guy" everytime I come to this place (and there is no other option, i HAVE to come back).

What should I say, do, not do...any advice?

---I will paypal $5 to the person who provides me with the best advice---

 

[Halloween]

Need more info.

Was she a waitress who relied on your tips by chance?

 

[Telurn]

Nope...no money or tipping was involved...

she works at the front desk where i get my hair cuts at...i mean obviously if things did crash and burn i COULD go to a different location, but I really dont want to because I am happy with the service they provide.

 

[Halloween]

"Holding a conversation" with someone who's really outgoing (which she probably is) is easy to do.

But you need to ask yourself, "Have I done anything to differentiate myself from the other guys that come into this place?" If not, it might just be that she's really outgoing and nice to everyone. So measure accordingly.

My advice to you (and it certainly ain't worth $5) is to make an effort to pull her out of the studio. You need to be in a different location before you can start building her comfort level. So I'd say don't ask her out on a "date."

Instead, do this: the instant you get her laughing, INTERRUPT her laughter and say, "HEY, I'm interested in getting a coffee on your break."

Notice how I wrote that. I didn't say (1) "in getting YOU a coffee," nor did I say (2) "in getting a coffee WITH YOU", nor did I (3) ask a question.

Why're these things important? (1) this sounds like you're supplicating, like you're trying to buy her time. A high-value guy doesn't need to buy anyone's time, they'll willingly give it. Give off that vibe. (2) is implied. But if she's witty there's a chance she might ask, "you mean with me?" And then you can smile (smile slowly--I think it's a lot more attractive to smile like you're trying not to) and say "Alright. You can come." (3) You're not asking her permission, you're getting yourself a coffee, goddammit. Also, asking questions changes the tone of your voice, and in my opinion it makes you sound less decisive.

...having trouble thinking of how to get her to laugh? Check this sh!t out:

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/7792102.stm

 

[DonJuan11]

What should I say, do, not do...any advice?

"I hate to see you stuck in here all day. Wondering if you have some time after work to join me for some coffee? I know this great place right around the corner."