"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How we spot abandonment issues

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There is this chick I've been with 6 months now, and I do wonder if I would need more time to spot.
But, like she's in a month that is obsessed by me, it's really all over me, but I'm not doing anything special.

This actually makes me think about a friend relationship with his wife that have those issues, (and she may also be a cluster b), that frequently disconnect emotionally from him, for super attractive men she encounter in her life, but then, after the crush is over, she come back obsessed by him.
In the meanwhile, He did nothing to improve something of himself to justify the result, so her behaviour it's simply something that happen to her.

So How do you guys actually understand if a woman has abandonment issues, wheter that be a fresh relationship or just a long one you're already in?

What do i mean with abandonment issues.. well that she actually behave in a way she is super clingy, that she is too much into you, and she "forgets" about her own life just because of you.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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He ran off, died, or molested her.
Nothing of those.
From what I do understand He was an absent figure, She had to "chase" him, then, when they were close, He would lovebomb her with some traveling, attention, validation, etc and then, turn back focus to his career. Over and over
 
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