"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How was this?

tamvonz1989

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There's this girl who lives across the road from my house. I was walking home from school on Friday (my house is really close). I saw her walking with her friend and then they stopped and turned around. Feeling confident, I walked up to them.

Here's the dialogue:

Her: Hi
Me: Hey, is your name Kelly?
Her: No
Friend: My name is Kelly!
Me: Is it? Nice to meet you, im Tam. *shake hands*
Me: So what's your name?
Her: Kate.
Me: Nice name, im Tam. *shake hands*
Kate: Are you the guy who lives across the street?
Me: Yea
Her: Do you look through my window when im changing? *laughs*
Me: Do you look through mine when im changing? *grin*
*awkward fart noise*
Me: Did u just fart?
Her: What?! *to her friend* Did i just fart? It mustve been my shoes.
Me: Sure...Well, i better get home. Youve got some cream on your lips.
Her: oh.. Bye
Me: Cya

How was that?
I feel like it was good for a first impression.

btw, this is a different girl than my last post.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Skilla_Staz

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The turn around on the dressing comment. Great.

The comment during the fart noise. Normal. Expected. Akward.

Conversation seemed a little short. Cream on your lips comment. Alright. I would've said "Well I can't stay and chat all day. I'm a popular guy. Oh and by the way babe, you got some...stuff....on your lip there." ;)
 

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Wow, i never would have thought of that. I'l keep that in mind next time.

Thanks
 

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Never miss an oppourtunity to toss in some ****y statement. Don't overdo it, but make sure its a light hearted C&F type thing. Also, if you point out something wrong with the girl, keep it lighthearted as well. Examples:

Bad
You got some nasty lookin stuff all over your neck. So gross

Good
So uh, forget to take a shower this morning babe? (Smile and point to her neck.)
 

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Here were some lines i tried on the same day (to a different girl). It might have a been a lil harsh.

I'm busy doing my work and then she stands up with her ass close to my face. (She was sitting next to me).

I say: Sit your fatass down.
She laughs then hits me on the shoulder.
A few minutes later, she is filling out this questionnaire for an assignment.

Her: What's my name?
Me: Fatass Helen.
Then she has a 'u did not just say that' looks on her face with her mouth wide open and i just turn away and continue my work.
Afterwards, i look at her questionnaire and say 'u spelt fatass wrong'. and then she has an 'smiling embarrassing' look on her face.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Skilla_Staz

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Yah I feel you overdid the fat ass thing. THe first time, if it was playful, was a neg hit. Not C&F. Still works though. The second and third time weren't needed.
 

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good intro, if you want to chase her, that would have made a good general introduction and it sets you up later, you could have improved on that fart though...
anyways she seems alittle strange since she said:"do you look at me when i change" the first time she meets you, doesnt that ring any alarm bells??
 

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in a perfect world you wouldve built a little more rapport and then used your finger to remove the cream or whatever, but hindsight is always 20/20 and i think you did great.
 
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