How To Turn Ex GF Into A FWB?

[soulforge]

As you know I dumped a chick recently after 4 months of dating.

One because of her behaviour and two because of the HUGE red flags.

I also began to develop feelings for her, so dumping seemed like the only option.

Now that a week has passed, I realise a couple of things.

The idea of giving exclusivity and a LTR to this woman was really dumb of me in the first place.

She has LOTS of red flags, and should never had been anything more than a plate or at best FWB.

I realise that now... However she was HOT and the sex was amazing.

It seems a shame I miss out on lots of sex mileage here.

I am considering reaching out and try get her on board as FWB.. Simply smash and send her home the next day.

At the same time I am a little apprehensive.. I developed feelings for her and I don't want that to come back.

Also she is a terrible candidate for a relationship, so I am tempted also to move on and not look back.

There is also the possibility she will reject me if I reach out? Not sure how I would feel about that.

Good or bad idea guys?

 

[backseatjuan]

She don't know what is FWB, after a week you crawling back she will see you different, loose a lot of respect for you.

 

[soulforge]

You’re not in the right mind to pull this off.

I think you are right guys.. Its abit too soon and I don't even think it's worth it to be honest.

 

[Julian]

U still have feels for her bro. Thats normal. U shouldnt dump someone just because you catch feelings. Thats weak.

I am curious as to the red flag? Also who cares if she rejects u man thats all ego. If u want her let her know but your game needs to be on some dark triad level to get her back and rly throw her for a loop but i dont think u have it in u and honestly its not a route i would recommend

 

[soulforge]

U still have feels for her bro. Thats normal. U shouldnt dump someone just because you catch feelings. Thats weak.

I am curious as to the red flag? Also who cares if she rejects u man thats all ego. If u want her let her know but your game needs to be on some dark triad level to get her back and rly throw her for a loop but i dont think u have it in u and honestly its not a route i would recommend

The red flags?

01.Abused as a child

02.Worked as a semi nude dancer in hotels abroad also clubs & bars some years ago.

03.Has done nude modelling, bondage modelling & possibly some porn too.

04.Has self harmed herself on a couple of occasions in the past.

05.Has tried a 3sum and a 4sum.

06.The guy who was her pornographer years ago, still comes to sleep over at her house every other month.. He is ugly & in his 60's... But she swears they are only freinds.

07.Takes cocaine occasionally & has a friend who is addicted to cocaine, who she lends money to.

08.Has intimacy issues

09.Didn't make much effort with me in regards to texting and general communication.

10.Has lots of male friends, she mentions alot.

Is that enough red flags bro? Because I can actually carry on lol.

This is why I dumped her, because catching feels for her, and a LTR would have been such a dangerously risky venture.

Full of doubts and mistrust.

 

[Julian]

The red flags?

01.Abused as a child

02.Worked as a semi nude dancer in hotels abroad also clubs & bars some years ago.

03.Has done nude modelling, bondage modelling & possibly some porn too.

04.Has self harmed herself on a couple of occasions in the past.

05.Has tried a 3sum and a 4sum.

06.The guy who was her pornographer years ago, still comes to sleep over at her house every other month.. He is ugly & in his 60's... But she swears they are only freinds.

07.Takes cocaine occasionally & has a friend who is addicted to cocaine, who she lends money to.

08.Has intimacy issues

09.Didn't make much effort with me in regards to texting and general communication.

10.Has lots of male friends, she mentions alot.

Is that enough red flags bro? Because I can actually carry on lol.

This is why I dumped her, because catching feels for her, and a LTR would have been such a dangerously risky venture.

Full of doubts and mistrust.

LOL ok now that you put it in perspective. How desperate are you? Those arent just red flags those are straight up evacuate now notifications. Forget and move on bro. Nothing she brings to your life will be worth it. Find new females that arent as fked up

 

[soulforge]

LOL ok now that you put it in perspective. How desperate are you? Those arent just red flags those are straight up evacuate now notifications. Forget and move on bro. Nothing she brings to your life will be worth it. Find new females that arent as fked up

Haha i'm glad I enlightened you on the situation.

Your brov... Even just seeing her exclusively for sex isn't worth it.

I don't care what anyone says on here.. Whenever you sleep with someone regular, kiss, fuk, hold each other...

There ALWAYS probability of catching some feels overtime.. Unless she isn't attractive or hot.

 

[backseatjuan]

That's my favorite gf he had, I found her p0rn on youp0rn.

 

[soulforge]

LOL ok now that you put it in perspective. How desperate are you? Those arent just red flags those are straight up evacuate now notifications. Forget and move on bro. Nothing she brings to your life will be worth it. Find new females that arent as fked up

Well the involvement in porn or nude modeling she claims was quite along time ago.

Still its a reflection of her character.. The guy who was her manager or pornographer is still still in the picture, and sleeping over at her house.

The drugs, Cocaine is still in the picture.. With some encouragement, always a risk of her going back to the nudity stuff if she got desperate for money.

Dumping was the correct course of action!

 

[soulforge]

I found this video on YouTube

Some really good list of Red Flags on it.

Quite a lengthy list

 

[soulforge]

Sharon Stone from Casino.. Brilliant portrait of a Toxic as fuk woman.

 

[JohnChops]

You have to wait, and then down the road make her a FWB when you have other women. If you do it right now, you will fall back into the relationship routine with her.

 

[stovepipe]

After a breakup like this your subconscious tries to convince you you'll be able to keep her as fwb. When In reality it will never work when you've developed feelings for her like you have. You will more than likely develop even deeper feelings for her as a result thus falling deeper into her toxic vortex. Right now you have all the power. If you try to fwb her she will end up having that power of you.

*****For a dog that returns to his own vomit, so a fool repeats his folly*****

 

[soulforge]

After a breakup like this your subconscious tries to convince you you'll be able to keep her as fwb. When In reality it will never work when you've developed feelings for her like you have. You will more than likely develop even deeper feelings for her as a result thus falling deeper into her toxic vortex. Right now you have all the power. If you try to fwb her she will end up having that power of you.

*****For a dog that returns to his own vomit, so a fool repeats his folly*****

I've done a crap load of soul searching..

And without a shadow of a doubt, I realise how dumb I was trying to LTR her.

Infact i'm laughing about it now.

This girl is DAMAGED beyond repair.

I want to get as much sexual mileage out of this situation as possible...

However I agree with you guys... Best to leave it for a while.

I hold the power at the moment... Reaching out now, could turn everything around.

Maybe later down the line, I can use her like the hoe she actually is.

 

[stovepipe]

I found this video on YouTube

Some really good list of Red Flags on it.

Quite a lengthy list

In the video he even tells you NOT to keep toxic women around even if it's casual. It's like having an IV drip of poison that slowly infects you, slowly takes away your masculinity, makes you angry, confused and ultimately infects your mind. There is always an element of love when sleeping with a women. She is your drug/addiction and if you go back to fwb her, you're ultimately letting that poison she infected you with destroy you even further.

 

[soulforge]

In the video he even tells you NOT to keep toxic women around even if it's casual. It's like having an IV drip of poison that slowly infects you, slowly takes away your masculinity, makes you angry, confused and ultimately infects your mind. There is always an element of love when sleeping with a women. She is your drug/addiction and if you go back to fwb her, you're ultimately letting that poison she infected you with destroy you even further.

This is true... None of us are immune to the power of hot sexy puzzy.

Its certainly is slow poisoning.. I am staying well away

 

[soulforge]

In the video he even tells you NOT to keep toxic women around even if it's casual. It's like having an IV drip of poison that slowly infects you, slowly takes away your masculinity, makes you angry, confused and ultimately infects your mind. There is always an element of love when sleeping with a women. She is your drug/addiction and if you go back to fwb her, you're ultimately letting that poison she infected you with destroy you even further.

Stovepipe watch this video.. This guys is brilliant.. Fantastic advise

 

[soulforge]

In the video he even tells you NOT to keep toxic women around even if it's casual. It's like having an IV drip of poison that slowly infects you, slowly takes away your masculinity, makes you angry, confused and ultimately infects your mind. There is always an element of love when sleeping with a women. She is your drug/addiction and if you go back to fwb her, you're ultimately letting that poison she infected you with destroy you even further.

I agree with you man.. Anytime you fuk and attractive woman, there is always some love element there.

If it's some chick your barely attracted to, then that is a different matter

 

[stovepipe]

Stovepipe watch this video.. This guys is brilliant.. Fantastic advise

I did. It's a must watch for all men who don't know about toxic women. Even if you do he does explain things in a way that is different than a lot of other videos on the same topic. I've been saying for years they need to teach this sh!t in school.

 

[Dash Riprock]

The red flags?

01.Abused as a child

02.Worked as a semi nude dancer in hotels abroad also clubs & bars some years ago.

03.Has done nude modelling, bondage modelling & possibly some porn too.

04.Has self harmed herself on a couple of occasions in the past.

05.Has tried a 3sum and a 4sum.

06.The guy who was her pornographer years ago, still comes to sleep over at her house every other month.. He is ugly & in his 60's... But she swears they are only freinds.

07.Takes cocaine occasionally & has a friend who is addicted to cocaine, who she lends money to.

08.Has intimacy issues

09.Didn't make much effort with me in regards to texting and general communication.

10.Has lots of male friends, she mentions alot.

Is that enough red flags bro? Because I can actually carry on lol.

This is why I dumped her, because catching feels for her, and a LTR would have been such a dangerously risky venture.

Full of doubts and mistrust.

11. Is HIV+.

Don't.
Do.
It!