how to turn around a soft rejection?

[espanish]

you say: "you want to exchange numbers so we can go out?"
girl thinks for a while (I am not good at reading people but seems like she is seriously considering it)
then she says "no, these days I am very busy I don't have time to date"

what do I do in this situation?

 

[spred]

Nothing, is not a soft rejection, is a hard rejection.
You go finf another girl.

 

[Barrister]

Just move on. That said - don’t ever ask to exchange numbers like you need permission. Just ask her for the number in a direct way. If she waffles on giving it out then just move on without making a big deal about it. Plenty of women out there not to get hung up on one.

 

[Chuck Taylor]

you say: "you want to exchange numbers so we can go out?"

I would never ever ask a girl this, in this way.

you hand her your phone and say "put your # in there. i'll give you a call in a few days and we'll get a drink."

 

[TheProspect]

99.9% of the time you're better off finding a woman who has higher interest in you than attempting to turn around a soft rejection from a low interest woman.

Why would you want to even try and turn around a rejection? Ask yourself that.

When it comes to dating, focus your time and energy on women who choose you. In other words, a woman who is receptive to your attempts to lead and escalate. Your hamster will spin less this way, you'll be less prone to onenitus, and you'll have more fun.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

That’s not ‘soft’.

 

[SW15]

You don’t turn around rejections at that point. You move on. It’s possible to push through resistance in escalation while on dates or trying for the same night lay in a bar pickup setting.

 

[Robert28]

When I was younger I turned some soft rejections around and eventually got the girl to go on a date. Nothing ever came from it though because she didn’t go on the date with an open mind, she went on it as more of a “favor”.

 

[espanish]

That’s not ‘soft’.

by how can you say that's not different from not thinking and immediately saying i have a boyfriend?

 

[Hamurabimbi]

by how can you say that's not different from not thinking and immediately saying i have a boyfriend?

Still a Hard No in my book.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

you say: "you want to exchange numbers so we can go out?"
girl thinks for a while (I am not good at reading people but seems like she is seriously considering it)
then she says "no, these days I am very busy I don't have time to date"

what do I do in this situation?

Walk away and find someone more interested. The effort you want to spend trying to change her mind would be better spent talking to more women.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

99.9% of the time you're better off finding a woman who has higher interest in you than attempting to turn around a soft rejection from a low interest woman.

Why would you want to even try and turn around a rejection? Ask yourself that.

When it comes to dating, focus your time and energy on women who choose you. In other words, a woman who is receptive to your attempts to lead and escalate. Your hamster will spin less this way, you'll be less prone to onenitus, and you'll have more fun.

This is why working on yourself is key, the better you are, the more chances you get at better looking women