How to turn a girl down ... I'm debating

[muscleman]

In the past I haven't given this much thought, but maybe it's time to spend a couple minutes on this. How do you turn down girls you're not interested in?

Quick story: I met this girl at a bar a couple weeks back and although I only had 3 beers the whole night, she looked better at the bar than later. Anyway, we exchanged numbers, I called her the next day, and a few days later we went on a date. She was eating everything up, I could have taken her home that night, but I realized I wasn't as attracted to her as I thought I would be. She texted me the next day to say she had a great time, I said I had fun too, and that was that. Well, fast forward a few days and now she's asking me if I want to hang out sometime this week.

Needless to say I don't. I've used the "I'm busy" excuse before, but it's kinda lame because I know I would find time for someone I'm really interested in. On the flipside, I don't know if I should straight up say "I don't think it's going to work out romantically between us". Thing is, I know feelings will get hurt a little either way, which I'm ok with, but I don't want to burn any bridges - you never know who you'll run into and under what circumstances.

So ... how do you let girls down? I probably will use the busy excuse/hint if I can't think of anything better.

 

[cola]

Quick story: I met this girl at a bar a couple weeks back and although I only had 3 beers the whole night, she looked better at the bar than later.

Beer goggles, Hah. Well, it depends: To keep giving her the "I'm busy excuse" which is usually what females give to us, and we hate it. I think you should tell her the following;

"I think your a smart, attractive girl, and its not because of any detriment to your character, but physically, your just not my type."
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Wouldn't life be so much easier if females were just direct like that? Would save so much time.

 

[Nygard]

Pick your nose and put it all over your mouth. It's like a nuke.

 

[Warrior74]

WWDDD?

What would Don Draper do? He would probably just say, I don't think we should see each other anymore. You understand. Then give her a hard stare and walk away.

 

[muscleman]

Nice. Actually I think I solved the "problem" without doing anything. I got so busy I totally forgot about the text message and before I knew it it was the next day, at which point it seemed kinda dumb to respond. So, problem solved.

 

[black-n-white911]

untill she hits you up every 3 days ^ lol

but yeah i usually jus dont text back...
texting back shows you are attracted to her, not texting shows you arent, its simple.. you only need an excuse if she just doesnt get it, in which case it aint your fault shes inexperienced and missing the hints

 

[Deadly_Ripped]

The most effective and benevolent turn down I got came from a girl 5 yrs younger than me.

She simply said, "my life is really crazy right now, and I don't think that I'll be able to find the time to meet up with you."

I knew that she was saying "I'm not interested," but she did it without insulting me, or even making it personal. Anyone that's not an idiot will see exactly what you mean with a statement like that, and if htey don't then you just ignore them if you can't handle saying straight out "I'd rather not."