Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Exactly what he said.Crazy Asian said:
Exactly, focus on your mission. But dont forget to throw them a bone once in a while in the shape of a phone call, a text or a coffee meetup just to keep yourself in sight, in mind. Only burn bridges if its warranted.jdon23 said:Exactly what he said.
If you're confident about yourself, it will be shown and exuded throughout your person. You won't have to think about how to treat ANY woman; because deep down you don't care about the result.
Women come and go. Keep your options open by building attraction and remember.. NEVER intentionally burn bridges. You never know what could happen.