"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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danthemann

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So this HB ive been seeing is starting to get serious with me, shes really the biggest b!tch of em all but for some reason i think its awesome because i was able to sort of touch the most heartless girl around. The only thing is, shes starting to really test my boundaries by trying to put me through hoops and crap, trying to b!tch me around to do stuff for her. She pretty much tells me to buy her this thing or that for her... I'm no pushover and I never buy her anything she superimposes on me. But whats the most effective yet least damaging way of telling her im not gunna be shoved around? Basically how can you train your b!tch?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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jafyk

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Lol, I like this. By the way have you seen the movie "how to train your dragon". It's a nice movie. Check it out sometime. Anyway, to more serious matters. I'm sure you will be getting more advice in addition to mine. So, here goes

I've learned that it's best to play by your own rules while trying to be fair as well. If you play by your own rules then you won't have to wonder "What should I do when she does...". The other thing to do is let her know where you stand. Tell her if you are going to buy her anything it will be on your own terms. There's a Sosuave article dealing with what you are going through in this specific situation.Here's a link http://www.sosuave.com/quick/tip247.htm

The other thing is to make sure you don't reward bad behavior. Sometimes you should even ignore it altogether. Also be sure to reward good behavior as well. At the end of the day make sure that regardless of what happens you can walk away from this relationship. When she knows that you have that power to walk and that she can't take it from she will either walk or play ball (cooperate). I don't know if you've also had the chance to read the "The Book of Pook" it's a very insightful read that will help you realize that IT ISN'T ABOUT A WOMAN. A good woman comes along as a result of a successful life. A woman is another compartment in your successful life and NOT your life. You can find the book of Pook in the DJ Bible link at the bottom left of your screen. Cheers mate. I hope I've been able to help.
 

AlexDP

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You reward good behaviour and you punish bad behaviour. If she's sweet to you, you're sweet to her. If she sucks your ****, you go down on her. If she does something you don't like, the best punishment is most likely to ignore her alltogether. Do realise however that women are people and people are not predictable. You can train a dog, but you can only train a woman up to a certain degree. In the end, she'll do as she pleases, just like you. When speaking in terms like this you're also in danger of developing a toxic relationship, where it's all about the power struggle. That being said: never lose control of yourself or you'll end up getting hurt.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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