"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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danthemann

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So this HB ive been seeing is starting to get serious with me, shes really the biggest b!tch of em all but for some reason i think its awesome because i was able to sort of touch the most heartless girl around. The only thing is, shes starting to really test my boundaries by trying to put me through hoops and crap, trying to b!tch me around to do stuff for her. She pretty much tells me to buy her this thing or that for her... I'm no pushover and I never buy her anything she superimposes on me. But whats the most effective yet least damaging way of telling her im not gunna be shoved around? Basically how can you train your b!tch?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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jafyk

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Lol, I like this. By the way have you seen the movie "how to train your dragon". It's a nice movie. Check it out sometime. Anyway, to more serious matters. I'm sure you will be getting more advice in addition to mine. So, here goes

I've learned that it's best to play by your own rules while trying to be fair as well. If you play by your own rules then you won't have to wonder "What should I do when she does...". The other thing to do is let her know where you stand. Tell her if you are going to buy her anything it will be on your own terms. There's a Sosuave article dealing with what you are going through in this specific situation.Here's a link http://www.sosuave.com/quick/tip247.htm

The other thing is to make sure you don't reward bad behavior. Sometimes you should even ignore it altogether. Also be sure to reward good behavior as well. At the end of the day make sure that regardless of what happens you can walk away from this relationship. When she knows that you have that power to walk and that she can't take it from she will either walk or play ball (cooperate). I don't know if you've also had the chance to read the "The Book of Pook" it's a very insightful read that will help you realize that IT ISN'T ABOUT A WOMAN. A good woman comes along as a result of a successful life. A woman is another compartment in your successful life and NOT your life. You can find the book of Pook in the DJ Bible link at the bottom left of your screen. Cheers mate. I hope I've been able to help.
 

AlexDP

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You reward good behaviour and you punish bad behaviour. If she's sweet to you, you're sweet to her. If she sucks your ****, you go down on her. If she does something you don't like, the best punishment is most likely to ignore her alltogether. Do realise however that women are people and people are not predictable. You can train a dog, but you can only train a woman up to a certain degree. In the end, she'll do as she pleases, just like you. When speaking in terms like this you're also in danger of developing a toxic relationship, where it's all about the power struggle. That being said: never lose control of yourself or you'll end up getting hurt.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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