"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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How To Tell

Iybee Pimpin

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Anybody know a special way you can tell if a girl has a boyfriend, without asking her directly?
 
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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NRM

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I've been listening to some David DeAngelo and I agree with what he has to say. Basically, it's not good to ask a girl if she has a boyfriend when you first meet her, because she gets all these implications in her head. What you should try asking is "Are you single?" since it kinda throws them off guard and is a lot simpler than "Do you have a boyfriend?" If they are available they will say yes, they are single, and that doesn't stir up other ideas if she's currently dating someone else, but not with him.

I think it's a pretty sound idea.
 

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I agree with NRM. Asking "Are you single?" also implies you are the selector.
 

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I find a good way is to get talking about her life. Women like doing this anyway. I usually say something like 'so do you share a flat, or have you taken the plunge and bought your own place?'

A taken woman will usually take this opportunity to show off her status by saying something like 'I've just bought a place with my boyfriend/husband' or 'I rent a place with my boyfriend' etc.

You can also do this by asking about recent holidays she's been on.

If you get something like 'I live alone' then you need to dig deeper. Eventually, you may need to just clarify by saying something c&f like 'so are you on the shelf then?' or 'Mr Right hasn't turned up yet?' or similar.
 
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