"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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How to tell if her excuse is legit/not ??

tomwesten27

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Hey guys!

I have been meeting a few girls off the "Tinder" App. I had actually had two successful dates/lays off it for only having it a month! If your not familiar with Tinder, you post up pictures, your connected through Facebook and when you BOTH hit YES to each other then you are aloud to text each other through the app.

A problem I STILL have is I can't figure out when to walk away/pursue further after we start talking..

Like this recent 24 yr old girl I texted. She hit YES to me, we texted back and forth, I asked her to give me her number to get together, she was excited and gave me her number but then....

Me"Hey Jessica this is Tom, if your free Wednesday night would you like to grab a bite to eat?"

HB8"Hey! This week is actually really busy for me, my best friend is getting married and I am doing wedding errands all this week, but maybe one night next week?"

I never know if the girl is being legit busy, or not. How can I determine to lose the number or try again next week?


And from now until next week, do I try talking to her at all? Or say nothing...?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Mr. Kalikoat

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You can't know.

Just put her on the back burner for now, spin more plates, date other chicks and try again next week. If she comes with a new excuse, ditch her.
 

chath

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i actually had one girl off pof have a bunch of excuses. but she was legit. something happened at work, then her grandpa died the next week.

it was a letdown anyways, i met her for sushi and she was like 5/10 and completely NOT INTERESTING. i entertained her for a half hour while eating my food and got the **** out of there.
 

Harry Wilmington

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Simple: if you ask them out for a specific day and they say they're busy that day BUT they counter-offer for a future date, it means they're interested (unless they keep delaying seeing you over and over and over, lol). If you ask them out and they give you an excuse but no counter-offer, leave it alone - she's not interested. In your current case, she said she MAYBE available one night next week - it's a weak counter-offer (not specific to day or time or potential meet up location), but a counter-offer nonetheless. Your goal, then, would be to respond back with "that could be arranged - I'm busy Monday and Tuesday but free on Wednesday and Thursday, how about u?" and see what she says. Good luck!
 
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