Senior Don Juan
- Jan 14, 2003
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Hey, I'm back. You indeed have a point that everybody has a different disposition, and there's as many different dispositions in the world as there are people. Having said that, people who fall within a certain range of dispositions tend to act somewhat similarly. For example, you can expect that the oldest child in a family will be more bossy and parental because parents tend to be all about setting the rules with the first kids in a family, whereas by contrast younger children are more aloof and independent because the parents have not shown as much attention to them. Likewise, you have almost a 100% certainty that Mother Teresa would not be grabbing rifles and shooting at people from towers. It's not always the case, but even then there are definable sets of sub-circumstances that can alter these the generally assumed characteristics of a person's disposition, and most of the time these in themselves are definable when examined.Originally posted by matius
I'm not trying to start an argument with you, I'm just giving a counter point because I've experienced the opposite.
You might need to explain the extroverted woman to me again though, I don't quite get that. You mean, if she likes you- she will treat you the same as every other tom, dyke and harry...
But if she doesn't like you, then she just ignores you and makes you feel small. How do you know if she likes you?
I just went through this scenario, and I'd have to say that the complete opposite was true in this one instance.
Maybe my point of view is biased. I'm sure that some people and situations occur as you say, but I just think it's too wide of an array of dispositions is all.
The point of all this is that these assumable characteristics allow us to say that a certain type of woman behaves in one certain manner, while a certain type behaves in another manner. Certainly, there are ranges to this: some shy women may use kino a bit, some may not be afraid to use it at all if they're from a family that hugs a lot, some may not ever use kino at all. But what we're looking for before we can say whether or not a woman is interested in us is to see if a majority of these characteristics are present in her actions towards us.
Also, it's very important to note that when we're interested in a woman, we risk something called the "subjective fallicy": This is where we want to believe so much that a woman is returning our own interest in them back to us that we begin to analyze everything she does towards us in our favor, as a positive sign. This does more to mess us up when we guys are scheming to hit on a woman than anything else we have against us.
Now to your question... about extroverted women and how they express an interest in you. An extroverted woman is one who is more open, and gains energy from the people around her. An extroverted woman will generally not freeze up around a guy she is interested in. She will be generally be able to carry a conversation with the guy she likes, compared to a shy girl, who would have a heart attack if a guy she liked walked near her.
The trick with noting if an extroverted woman is interested in you is to observe her behavior towards you. Yes, she'll be talking and laughing with her friends, but if she likes you she'll also be doing the same with you. If she's not particuarly interested in getting to know you she'll still talk to you, but she's not going to go out of her way to stick around you. She'll say what she needs to say, and then she'll be back off with her friends.
Let me give you an example from last weekend. I was at a bar and there was this chick there who was up running around, talking with her friends, having fun, enjoying herself. This is what happened next:
1. She comes up to the bar and sits next to me. An excellent opportunity for me to see if I can't start something with her, maybe get her number, etc.
2. I start some meaningless conversation, make a few good jokes. She's there to get a few shots for her and some other person.
3. She laughs at what I have to say, she adds a few jokes herself, smiles a bit, she is obviously having no trouble talking to me, but SHE IS NOT LOOKING AT ME MUCH WHILE SHE IS DOING TALKING TO ME. I am not something that is interesting to her, and I can feel it from her because my emotions are not being returned.
4. She gets her drinks and she leaves. I'm still sitting at the bar by myself. That's the last I talk to her for the whole night, while she goes back to her friends and laughs it up, and has a good time.
Now if she were interested in me, she would have been making eye contact and talking to me more, smiling a whole lot more, and laughing a lot at what I had to say. She would probably have kino'd me with a slight smack in the arm. There's a chance she would have made things possible for me to get her number.
That's what I mean. I'm trying to understand what you're talking about... was your experience with an extroverted woman? Could you elaborate on what happened?