"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How to Tell a Girl I Work With That Has a Boyfriend I Wanna Hook Up?

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Hey guys,

There's a girl that I work with that I really like. I turned in my 3-week notice a week ago, so I won't have many more chances to talk to her. I can tell there's a chemistry between us but the only problem is that she has had the same boyfriend off and on for 5 years. It's a shame too. He's this FAT, UGLY, pathetic loser with no job. This girl is way out of his league.

So, what should I do?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Andromax

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Invite her out, then initiate keno. See what happens.

If you want to break them up, you gotta go covert, dont tell her that you are interested in stealing her away. Let her want you, and lead her into your lair away from him. Get into a sexually inuendo-laden rapport with her.

Turn her against him by exploiting his jealousy and insecurities.


Its all well used rookie stuff, but it works...
 

MacDiddy

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You never tell a girl how you feel about her.. NEVER...

esp. one that has a BF...

Doing so only gives her an opportunity to reject your advances if she so wishes. Why take that chance. You'll immediately move into the friendship black hole if the decision doesn't go your way. Improve your chances by getting her into state. Use kino, routines, and build massive rapport.

DJ's don't ask for something.. They take it!!! think about it..
 

octane_orphan

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... for the love of god dont ever slag off her bf ... by doing that you are slagging off her choice and her decision to be with him. Dont be negative in anyway about him and if you cant do that change the subject to something posistive about your relationship together if the topic of him comes up...
 

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Dude, the way you worded the title of this thread I thought you were asking for help on how to hook up this girl's boyfriend...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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MrHarris

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WOW, I can't believe your asking this question. You have 2 problems here:

1. She has a boyfriend
2. You work with her


Both by themselves are the makings of a disaster. Together you'd have to be stupid and with oneitis to persue this.
 

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Originally posted by MrHarris
WOW, I can't believe your asking this question. You have 2 problems here:

1. She has a boyfriend
2. You work with her


Both by themselves are the makings of a disaster. Together you'd have to be stupid and with oneitis to persue this.
Uh, last I saw, he IS quitting his job. And you're awfully judgemental to call him stupid. Maybe you're just bad at having relationships with co-workers. *shrugs*

I like to pick on girls when they have a boyfriend already. This line always works wonders: "You have a boyfriend? How boring! *exhaggerated eye roll and sigh* Looks like I'm just going to have to find some other girl to entertain me. *smile and wave and walk off*" If she's genuinlly (sp?) interested, she'll be like "Whaaaaaaat? Come back!"
 

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I'm thinking about just saying that I think she's cool and give her my e-mail addy and just leave it at that.
 

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Originally posted by MacDiddy
You never tell a girl how you feel about her.. NEVER...

esp. one that has a BF...

Doing so only gives her an opportunity to reject your advances if she so wishes. Why take that chance. You'll immediately move into the friendship black hole if the decision doesn't go your way. Improve your chances by getting her into state. Use kino, routines, and build massive rapport.

DJ's don't ask for something.. They take it!!! think about it..
I'll second this. I love girls that have BFs because you can use the BF to your advantage by useing him as an angle to get at her. Come at her as a friend with your words, and as something more with your actions. If she uses her BF to sh*t test when you approach, tell her you are leaving in two weeks and are gathering all of your friends contact info. Don't think PU think networking.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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