"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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how to tease her but being nice at the same time?

foomee

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i've got the whole mean thing down, and apparently it's been working pretty good. but she's always saying "i hate you" and "you can't go one day without saying something mean to me" etc etc. so how do i go about doing both, being nice, but with ****y and teasing?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You can't use C+F on girls that are insecure and have fragile egos. The purpose of C+F is to demonstrate higher value to a girl who might otherwise think she is above you, for example if you are an average guy trying to game an HB9, you are demonstrating higher value by being C and making her laugh by using F and if you are busting on her, showing that you aren't intimidated by her beauty.

But if you use this on a girl who is insecure, the results are probably going to backfire. The lower her looks/self-esteem are on the scale, the more "niceguyish" you can be.

FYI- there's a difference between being "mean" and being C+F. You aren't aiming to be mean, you're aiming to be confident, not afraid to bust on her a bit, but at the same time be funny and flirtateous. Mean leaves out the latter two.
 

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Dude, you don't want to have the "mean thing" down.

Do a search for threads with the title nice guy in them... there have been a couple in the last few days.
 

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foomee said:
i've got the whole mean thing down
There's a "mean thing."

Negs are supposedly only good on HB8.5 plus and in moderation.
 

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That "mean thing" is definitely something that you don't want. I was gaming this chic at one point, with a very fragile ego i might add, my naturally sarcastic nature got me that "mean" title. I found out later she took every C+F & sarcastic comment (no matter what the subject was) as a personal attack directed towards her, which brought things to a halt quite quick.

You have to make a judgment call on when you think the C+F isn't having the desired effect and change the way you handle yourself, it's not what the comment was meant to convey, it's all about how it's received, and if the comments are not received in a manner which will provoke the desired effect, more is definitely not better. Try not to bust on her so much, but like speakeasy said, you have to be funny and flirtatious when being C+F, if she still thinks its mean, cut back a little more, but don't stop busting on her.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I've got a lot of the C+F down, but how do you go about turning it flirtatious? I bust her on a lot of silly little things, she laughs and says "I hate you", but I know it's a good way. How do you go about escalating it into a flirting type or even complimenting her?
 

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RE: Why are you being mean?

I am new the DJ lifestyle, but based on my approaches and field tests, here's what I find works:

I am pretty witty and somewhat sarcastic by my nature (maybe just a touch cynical when it comes to women). If I am being my usual self, USUALLY it's good for a genuine laugh, though I have gotten the "Why are you being mean to me" question. If that question arises, it usually means I didn't smile/smirk/wink during a comment and she takes it seriously. My recovery?

"Hey, don't take me so seriously, I don't want the responsibility."

For me, that statement works like a charm.
1) It puts her insecurities on her, NOT me.
2) Shows that it's all in fun and I am having fun WITH HER.

It's almost always an instant smile and laugh for me. I need to get better and not letting it get to that point, though.
 

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If they complain about you being mean, say 'you love it.' Their next response will tell you everything you need to know.
 
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