how to take the next step?

[cloudnine]

I consider myself to be a fairly shy individual, and lately I've been having problems making the jump to getting a girl's number or asking her out on a date.

It might be a self-esteem thing, but I'm just lost as to how to get from the chit-chat stage, to the do-you-want-to-get-together sometime stage.

Do any of you guys have tips on how to further a simple conversation into a possible hook-up? I'm tired of missed opportunities, and I want to know how you pros get to where you want to be

 

[TheVirtualMind]

I consider myself to be a fairly shy individual, and lately I've been having problems making the jump to getting a girl's number or asking her out on a date.

It might be a self-esteem thing, but I'm just lost as to how to get from the chit-chat stage, to the do-you-want-to-get-together sometime stage.

Do any of you guys have tips on how to further a simple conversation into a possible hook-up? I'm tired of missed opportunities, and I want to know how you pros get to where you want to be

Coming from a former (and at times, still current) shy individual with that same problem, let me tell you the simplest piece of advice I can give you that helped me TREMENDOUSLY.

Ready?

Just do it.

You know that instant you want to say something and it's on the tip of your tongue, yet you wait a second for some reason and then it's gone, or the moment seems passed?

Well, when you get that feeling, just ask. Could be something as simple as "hey, want to go grab lunch?" or a bit more bold of "I'm picking you up for dinner on Friday."

Just go for it.

 

[SoonToBeDJ]

I agree. Dig deep inside you, don't worry about getting turned down and do it. My reasoning? I always hated it when I had the chance to make a move and never did it. I HATED IT. So if you feel her do it. At least you won't regret not making a move.

 

[rain63]

agreed with soontobeDJ... just go for it. Rejection is always better than regret

 

[WC2]

Balls are vital to a DJ's arsenal. Grow them or at least make it look like you've grown them for now.

One thing to remember that going from harmless chit chat to, "so hey i think we should get together sometime, let me get your number" is NOT weird. Wusses think that saying something like this is weird. Why? Because they don't have balls. They think they come off as shallow a-holes. FALSE. Grow some balls, grow up and stop being a ***** (not directed at the OP).

Remember that ladies just like us love and want sex. Just like us, they talk to the opposite sex in hopes of great sex. The only difference is that most females want us to take the initiative. The men who are up for the challenge will always take the cake, while those who stand in the back afraid to speak up will always take a night with just their hand and themselves.

 

[cloudnine]

Great advice guys, but I guess you can't teach balls, you can only grow them.

I'm headed to a university residence for a couple nights next week, so if I can't get anything going there, I do not know what it will take