How to take control of my own frame with provocation

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I got this girl-friend who had given me condoms twice this month. she gives it during school with her friend, i also shared my threesome adventure during a hike and now she asks me to join her jog but i insisted that we hike since she wants me to be in her jog spot. later that texts i asked her a rubber with a provocation that i can sense that she's giving me signs. now im in the waiting game
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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The **** are you talking about?

Frame in context basically means maintaining your own interpretation and not getting thrown off by people's reactions. If her passing you condoms really bothers you, then stop letting her actions dictate your state of mind and simply decide what you want to do about it instead of letting it send you into an analysis spiral.
 

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I got this girl-friend who had given me condoms twice this month. she gives it during school with her friend, i also shared my threesome adventure during a hike and now she asks me to join her jog but i insisted that we hike since she wants me to be in her jog spot. later that texts i asked her a rubber with a provocation that i can sense that she's giving me signs. now im in the waiting game
Hey @Novice1 is it safe to assume English is not your native language?

By saying you "got this girl friend," do you mean "female friend" versus girlfriend like in a romantic relationship?

And what you're trying to determine is if you're reading her signals correctly and she's into you and wants to have sex with you?

You threw the idea out there hoping to provoke a response, the ball is in her court and as such you're now playing the waiting game?

Can you clarify?
 
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Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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The **** are you talking about?

Frame in context basically means maintaining your own interpretation and not getting thrown off by people's reactions. If her passing you condoms really bothers you, then stop letting her actions dictate your state of mind and simply decide what you want to do about it instead of letting it send you into an analysis spiral.
Will ignore her nonsense, im taking my swimming technique seriously
 
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