"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How to sustain an LTR

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I have been dating this amazing girl who is funny, caring, and pretty. This is the best sex that I ever had and nothing we want to do is off limits. She gets along very well with my family and friends as do I with hers. There is only one nagging thing that she disclosed to me recently. She told me she was molested once when she was younger (7 years old) and that the person was never captured.

I want to make her my long-term girlfriend and possibly more, she means a lot to me. Do you have any tips, strategy, or resources I could utilize to best handle this situation? Thanks for your help.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Nah, no one responded because I did not give enough details about where I wanted my relationship with her to go. Plus this is my 1st time using the forum and I am unfamiliar with its functions
 

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Nah, no one responded because I did not give enough details about where I wanted my relationship with her to go. Plus this is my 1st time using the forum and I am unfamiliar with its functions
What kind of advice do you want?

Seems like you get along with this girl just fine. I don't see why some tragic event that happened when she was 7 should change how you interact with her. That doesn't even make sense.

Okay, she was molested when she was 7. That's terrible. But here we are today, and she seems to get along with you just fine. So, how does that factor into anything?

Continue enjoying your time together. Continue being a challenge...no matter how "in love" you are, your woman does not want you to become boring and predictable. In summary: be a man.

I don't see how this molestation thing relates to anything. Just kinda comes out of left field.
 

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I agree with the above poster, just don't make a big deal out of it and continue enjoying your time together. Focus on fun, interesting, exciting times together.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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