"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How to: Successful First Dates

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This is a very important topic, so I think we should all share the tips we have. You got the number, made the plans and held down your aura and kept her interest over the days before you met up. Now the first date comes, and this will make or break your future with this girl and how things go.


So how do you show her a fun time?

I figure if this topic is important enough for people to make money of it (http://www.firstdatemastery.com/) than we should be discussing it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I've found that hookah lounges work really well as first dates, even if they don't smoke at all. I have yet to have a date like that go bad...other than the time I my pants on fire from a coal ember, but it sure as hell was funny for both of us.

It's definitely something different, laid-back, and does show your conscious of other cultures, too.

I've yet to do a dinner/movie date and probably never will. They're lame.

Other than that, I know of a few places around where I live that I go.
 

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PHAT Rabbit said:
I just make sure I have fun.. and everything else falls into place.

Can you imagine a date where you're laughing the whole time and the girl you're with has a scour on her face? No.. so don't worry if you're attracting her or if you're talking about the right things or if she's enjoying whatever you have planned. Just ensure you have a fun night out.. by amusing yourself through whatever avenues necessary and she will have fun too. It's a cause and effect relationship - plain and simple.

The other thing I should mention.. is pick a good date. Dinner and a movie is a horrible date. Any sit down eating date is terrible. Coffee or tea are also bad dates. Good dates include -- amusement parks, action dates, going for a walk (not gay romantic walks.. think like walking around trendy downtown), going to the museum (bonus for children's museums), etc.. You need to do something that induces conversation so you can form a bond.. rather than something that discourages convo or makes the situation high in tension (like dinner).
In my area a trendy downtown or amusement park would be over 50 minutes away, is that not too long to drive on a first date?
 

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The key principles of a successful first date is:

- Dress well, smell nice, use C+F
- Use the "Time Compression" technique by bringing her to multiple places so she feels like she's known you longer than she actually has
- Bring her someplace exciting, avoid dinner and movie cliche
- Kino escalation
- Have a few backup questions or lines incase the conversation runs dry
- Attempt at least a kiss close

Anyone have anything to add to this preparation list?
 

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I'm doing an activity date this saturday. Me and this girl are going hiking up to a place with an ocean view. I hear that activity dates are good. Especially when there's some sort of reward at the end, like looking at a view of the city or ocean or something. And it also feels a bit like an adventure. Two people struggling to get to the top, exhausted, yet they finally made it together. Plenty of chances for kino, like if she looks tired, grab her hand and coax her along. Probably a lot easier to have rapport-building experience with something like that than sitting across the table having dinner.

And the added benefit is that it cost $0.00.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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