"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How to: Successful First Dates

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This is a very important topic, so I think we should all share the tips we have. You got the number, made the plans and held down your aura and kept her interest over the days before you met up. Now the first date comes, and this will make or break your future with this girl and how things go.


So how do you show her a fun time?

I figure if this topic is important enough for people to make money of it (http://www.firstdatemastery.com/) than we should be discussing it.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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I've found that hookah lounges work really well as first dates, even if they don't smoke at all. I have yet to have a date like that go bad...other than the time I my pants on fire from a coal ember, but it sure as hell was funny for both of us.

It's definitely something different, laid-back, and does show your conscious of other cultures, too.

I've yet to do a dinner/movie date and probably never will. They're lame.

Other than that, I know of a few places around where I live that I go.
 

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PHAT Rabbit said:
I just make sure I have fun.. and everything else falls into place.

Can you imagine a date where you're laughing the whole time and the girl you're with has a scour on her face? No.. so don't worry if you're attracting her or if you're talking about the right things or if she's enjoying whatever you have planned. Just ensure you have a fun night out.. by amusing yourself through whatever avenues necessary and she will have fun too. It's a cause and effect relationship - plain and simple.

The other thing I should mention.. is pick a good date. Dinner and a movie is a horrible date. Any sit down eating date is terrible. Coffee or tea are also bad dates. Good dates include -- amusement parks, action dates, going for a walk (not gay romantic walks.. think like walking around trendy downtown), going to the museum (bonus for children's museums), etc.. You need to do something that induces conversation so you can form a bond.. rather than something that discourages convo or makes the situation high in tension (like dinner).
In my area a trendy downtown or amusement park would be over 50 minutes away, is that not too long to drive on a first date?
 

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The key principles of a successful first date is:

- Dress well, smell nice, use C+F
- Use the "Time Compression" technique by bringing her to multiple places so she feels like she's known you longer than she actually has
- Bring her someplace exciting, avoid dinner and movie cliche
- Kino escalation
- Have a few backup questions or lines incase the conversation runs dry
- Attempt at least a kiss close

Anyone have anything to add to this preparation list?
 

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I'm doing an activity date this saturday. Me and this girl are going hiking up to a place with an ocean view. I hear that activity dates are good. Especially when there's some sort of reward at the end, like looking at a view of the city or ocean or something. And it also feels a bit like an adventure. Two people struggling to get to the top, exhausted, yet they finally made it together. Plenty of chances for kino, like if she looks tired, grab her hand and coax her along. Probably a lot easier to have rapport-building experience with something like that than sitting across the table having dinner.

And the added benefit is that it cost $0.00.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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