How to stop seeking approval?

[smithersonb11]

Simple question. How would you guys recommend going about becoming less approval seeking?

Something I noticed lately. I feel like I'm sometimes having to force the un-reactiveness and strong frame, if you understand what I mean. How can I make the transition from being nonreactive and alpha consciously to naturally?

 

[Eph]

Best answer is if you're "trying" to be alpha, you aren't alpha. Don't think, just do. To stop seeking approval (and BECOME alpha), do things because YOU want to, say things because YOU think they're funny, etc. Be nonreactive. If a girl flakes, its "oh well, her loss".

 

[smithersonb11]

Best answer is if you're "trying" to be alpha, you aren't alpha. Don't think, just do. To stop seeking approval (and BECOME alpha), do things because YOU want to, say things because YOU think they're funny, etc. Be nonreactive. If a girl flakes, its "oh well, her loss".

Very aware of this.

What I mean by sometimes having to force being non reactive I mean when not in state. I can be very state dependent, when I'm not with friends or in state I overthink too much.

 

[Alvafe]

if you want a state of mind to help just think, what you if a total stranger heard your a joke you told your frinds saying it not funny? you would ignore that person like nothing and keep talking and laughing with your friends.

that is the kind of thing you should do, make then like if you don't know then, so why you would care if you don't know? and use it