Hey, how do you stop/hook a woman in who is walking? I was at a retail store when I saw an attractive Asian girl in line. If I had opened her right there, that would've been direct opening in front of a lot of people(she was in line at the register), and there could've been consequences to it, since I'm from a small town. So, I just waited until she got outside and then I approached her with "Hey, I thought you were cute and I wanted to talk with you for a second". She smiled and talked a little to me on the way to her car, but she didn't stop for me. So, should I have followed her to her car instead of just talking to her as she was moving away from me or what? These situations confuse me because I don't know what to do to demonstrate that I'm not needy or desperate. Because I want to do enough to keep her hooked, but not too much.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
How to stop/hook women who are walking?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Tyson420
Senior Don Juan
Just say whatever the fck you wanna say bro.
Try this:
Approach her as she's walking. Then STOP walking and open. She will feel inclined to stop and talk to you.
So for instance, you could go up to her, then stop and say, "Excuse me," and then go into your opener. People will follow as you do.
Approach her as she's walking. Then STOP walking and open. She will feel inclined to stop and talk to you.
So for instance, you could go up to her, then stop and say, "Excuse me," and then go into your opener. People will follow as you do.
Masculinity
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I have a good one, but it requires a good set of b@lls.
Simply say "hi!" and give her a smirk and stop. If she just smiles and keeps walking, then say "Oh, c'mon, are my good looks really THAT intimidating? (smile)." I'm looking forward to hearing the good results you get!
Simply say "hi!" and give her a smirk and stop. If she just smiles and keeps walking, then say "Oh, c'mon, are my good looks really THAT intimidating? (smile)." I'm looking forward to hearing the good results you get!
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Amw406
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When you see a girl approaching. Pull out your phone. Make it look like your texting. then as she walks by say, "Hey, my friend and I were having a discussion,and I think we need a female opinion. His girl friend wants a manaj a twa. Do you think that will help their relationship or hurt it? Oh, did I mention his girlfriend is a stripper?
Heard that on the internet somewhere. Opening with, "I need a female opinion on something," usually will take them off their guard long enough to start a conversation. Try make it looking like your talking to them because they are there. Not like it was premeditated.
Heard that on the internet somewhere. Opening with, "I need a female opinion on something," usually will take them off their guard long enough to start a conversation. Try make it looking like your talking to them because they are there. Not like it was premeditated.
thevilittletroll
Senior Don Juan
girls on the move is a tough one to open and hook. it just does not have a very high success rate, not my cup of tea. one thing that you cannot do is follow after them. it does not show high value. you can run your game but it will turn into a creepy vibe cause you are following. it shows needyness and desperation which is low value. so even if you do get their number they will flake.
post up somewhere where you know they will walk by you, just yell out your opener when they walk by. ex: hey! real quick!....usually some hesitation....real quick! do not come down from your post. just recite your opener loud enough for them to hear you, let them come to you. if it hooks it is a solid IOI. proceed from there.
post up somewhere where you know they will walk by you, just yell out your opener when they walk by. ex: hey! real quick!....usually some hesitation....real quick! do not come down from your post. just recite your opener loud enough for them to hear you, let them come to you. if it hooks it is a solid IOI. proceed from there.
loveshogun
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Were they gonna lynch you? Seriously, what consequences? The police gonna roll up and re-enact the Rodney King arrest?Deicide said:
Worst case scenario is that you'd be considered a d*ck for about 30 seconds for talking instead of keeping the line moving.
I will admit that standing in a line, it's can probably come off as a little creepy to just start with "Hi, my name is ____."
Easy fix: look at some of the stuff she's holding and comment on it. Then say "Hi, my name is ____."
Not that difficult, brotha. Opening is easy. Closing is where it gets trickier. Ask us about closing.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Buy a megaphone and keep on raising the volume to max until you get her attention while following her. Think of the most AFC love song then start singing it out loud how she is your sweetheart. Try a song like "Never going to let you go".
Haha, I've always been paranoid about getting kicked out of stores or public places for doing pick-up. I guess it's just negative social conditioning from my youth, because I never got in trouble for anything then. lol Yes, I'm interested in learning how to open up girls waiting in line or other busy places. And I'm trying to go direct and do more ballsy approaches, because some of those insecure indirect cold approaches I did in the past didn't do anything.loveshogun said:
At AMW and Robyn: Thanks for the advice. When college starts back I'll be doing a lot of day game cold approaches on unsuspecting HB's. I'm just trying to train myself mentally to go for direct approaches.