Fellas, for some reason, whenever I get physical with a girl(such as kissing, makin out or even sex) I end up getting one-itis for her and I turn all AFC. With the girl i went with friday, we made out for a lil bit, and today I called her to ask her out for the comin friday and no one answered. I didn't leave a message yet called twice(once at 1 PM, the other at 5:15) and no one answered. Whats happening in this situation? Kinda surprisin especially since she got physicall with me.. In addition, whats the best way to stop getting attached to a girl despite her kissin you/makin out, etc.?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
How to stop getting One-itis
- Thread starter LADawg49
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
dude, just chill a little. maybe she didn't have her phone on her or no-one was home all day. When you get attached to people, you start over-thinking things that you wouldn't think twice about with others. For example, if you called a mate and he didn't answer, would you think that it was because he doesn't want to be your friend or talk to you? Hell no! It should be the same with the girl you're trying to get with.
Just try again later on. In the meantime, I really have on idea how to stop yourself getting one-itis. I seem to be a sucker for this kinda thing too.
Just try again later on. In the meantime, I really have on idea how to stop yourself getting one-itis. I seem to be a sucker for this kinda thing too.
Hellboy
Senior Don Juan
Good response, except for don't try later - she has caller ID.Originally posted by lebRambo
dude, just chill a little. maybe she didn't have her phone on her or no-one was home all day. When you get attached to people, you start over-thinking things that you wouldn't think twice about with others. For example, if you called a mate and he didn't answer, would you think that it was because he doesn't want to be your friend or talk to you? Hell no! It should be the same with the girl you're trying to get with.
Just try again later on. In the meantime, I really have on idea how to stop yourself getting one-itis. I seem to be a sucker for this kinda thing too.
If you don't want to get attached to a girl, then realise she is probably only so important to you because you want to have sex with her, and develop an obsession with this. You should forget your obsession with girls you want to have sex with. Back off a little and let them come to you. Give her space to breathe and time for her to think about how much she would benefit from being with you.
And is she really deserving of your undevided attention? Be sure about this and that you aren't just thinking with your dyck.
Actually there is no issue of caller ID cause I blocked my number, so I can call like as many times as I feel like.. lol. I just did call(3rd try) and her sister picked up and she said that she had her teeth pulled out so couldn't talk. I told her to tell her that ill call back later. She told me to try tommorrow. However, im thinkin of waitin till Thursday, to seem like a challenge. would that be a good idea?
gixxer
Don Juan
She had her teeth pulled???? Dude, they're messing with you. DO NOT CALL HER AGAIN UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES. If she's into you she'll call. And I bet she won't.
gixx
gixx
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I know what u mean man, but what surprises me is why some women will make out with a man one day,and then be all distant from him after that? I mean I was always a challenge, kept things light/funny, etc. As for teeth pulled, she had her wisdom teeth pulled. i had mine pulled and couldn't really talk for at least one or two days..
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gixxer
Don Juan
OK, so she really had her teeth pulled. Fine. Don't call her anymore anyway :crackup:
Find new girls and let her see you out with them.....
gixx
Find new girls and let her see you out with them.....
gixx
Spartan
Don Juan
Do not call her. If she wants to get in touch with you she will contact you. If she cannot speak she can text you. The ball is in her court, you done your bit.
diablo
Master Don Juan
Blocking your number before you call reeks of insecurity. If she isn't going to answer because she knows it's you, then she's obviously not into you at all. Blocking your number to sneak past her first line of defense isn't going to open her up and cause her to want you to start pounding away at her.
Be yourself. Not "Private Caller".Sounds to me like she's not answering the phone. Maybe she wasn't there.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Junior Sanz
Don Juan
REFER TO THE ***BALANCE THEORY*** THREAD
Spartan
Don Juan
Phone up your service provider and unblock your phone. There is no need to have your mobile number blocked. Absolutely no point to it especially if you are going to be dating.
There is nothing more frustrating than knowing someone called but not knowing who it was or where the call originated from.
BigMike is correct. This is good advice.
Answer to the question: Try to date other girls. I'm the same, but I noticed that whenever I had one-itis but I found another girl who was good-looking to me my one-itis faded and if things got more "seriously" (though ive probably never been anywhere close to being what youd call serious) my feeligns for the girl i had one-itis before went off completely. Anyways the best thing to do is to constantly think about other girls and when u kiss/ get physical with a girl dont stay wondering how things will go on but go out the next day and try (at least try) to find another chick. at least thats how my brain works lol.
HeartlessBtch
Don Juan
Geezzz this post makes me believe I'm blind...I guess there are tons of sl*ts out there...but anyways, she's not the only woman on earth, if she really doens't show any signs of interest do not try to stick around, just move on...Women tend to change their minds rather quick...Oh ye... by the way please remember that even though women do not share such thinks we are equally as sexually oriented as males are, therefore if a girl requires that her needs be met she we'll use you for that purpose and walk out like nothing happened...we've learned from the best
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.