How to stop falling for a girl who don't want anything serious?

[noumena]

How can I train my nervous system not to fall for a girl who doesn't want anything serious?

I have an obsessive nature when it comes to romantic interests. I tend to get emotionally attached and obsessed, regardless of whether the feelings are mutual or one-sided.

How can I stop constantly checking whether she has texted me? How can I stop wondering why she didn't send me a good morning text today? How can I stop overthinking that she's pulling away, especially because she's done it before? And most importantly, how can I overcome the constant fear that she might leave me?

 

[crowolf]

Short answer:

It's called having an "anxious attachment style". Look it up.

The best way to live with it is by not seeking relationships with people who have an "avoidant attachment style".

Perhaps now it is still tempting for you, but after a while you will probably come to the conclusion that it's healthier for your nervous system to not get involved with people who are unhealthy for you.

 

[noumena]

Short answer:

It's called having an "anxious attachment style". Look it up.

The best way to live with it is by not seeking relationships with people who have an "avoidant attachment style".

Perhaps now it is still tempting for you, but after a while you will probably come to the conclusion that it's healthier for your nervous system to not get involved with people who are unhealthy for you.

What are the chances I can change my attachment style?

 

[Poonstra]

To start read all of this:

Don Juan Bible

 

[Gamisch]

You need to bump uour head against the wall.

Hopefully just once, but if you're anything like me it might take more times before you fecking finally learn your lesson...

Women come and go. The tricky thing is that if YOU are attached more than she is ,she will be gone without notice. Aka you might still be in close contact with her, even sleep with her but MENTALLY she check out already ....

The better batteries have this safety mechanism that only allows them to charge for like 85%. Thats how your love/ attachment should be. NEVER 100%. There always needs to be like 15 % of you that's completely unavailable. That will allow you to take the hit and move on faster.

At your age you gotta learn FAST. You can't waste too much time anymore. You gotta observe ,try, succeed.