How to stop falling for a girl who don't want anything serious?

[noumena]

How can I train my nervous system not to fall for a girl who doesn't want anything serious?

I have an obsessive nature when it comes to romantic interests. I tend to get emotionally attached and obsessed, regardless of whether the feelings are mutual or one-sided.

How can I stop constantly checking whether she has texted me? How can I stop wondering why she didn't send me a good morning text today? How can I stop overthinking that she's pulling away, especially because she's done it before? And most importantly, how can I overcome the constant fear that she might leave me?

 

[crowolf]

Short answer:

It's called having an "anxious attachment style". Look it up.

The best way to live with it is by not seeking relationships with people who have an "avoidant attachment style".

Perhaps now it is still tempting for you, but after a while you will probably come to the conclusion that it's healthier for your nervous system to not get involved with people who are unhealthy for you.

 

[noumena]

Short answer:

It's called having an "anxious attachment style". Look it up.

The best way to live with it is by not seeking relationships with people who have an "avoidant attachment style".

Perhaps now it is still tempting for you, but after a while you will probably come to the conclusion that it's healthier for your nervous system to not get involved with people who are unhealthy for you.

What are the chances I can change my attachment style?

 

[Poonstra]

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